Micro Habits that Fuel Depression

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A lot of people who end up with Major Depressive Disorder have no idea why they feel the way they do. Some have experienced trauma or a huge stressor, but a surprising amount of them say something like, “Everything in my life is fine. I have no reason to be depressed. But I just don’t feel happy anymore.”
Here’s my theory: depression happens when tiny things, often unnoticed, add up over time and become overwhelming.
Researchers have explored the brain’s “giving up” circuit, which flips from “This is hard, but I’m going to keep trying” to “This is pointless. I’m going to give up.” When life feels too overwhelming, the nervous system reinforces shutdown and hopelessness.
This is actually great news because if we can manage just a few of these tiny things, we can remove some of the weight fueling our depression, allowing your brain and body’s natural resilience to kick back in. So let’s take a look at the micro habits that add up over time to cause depression.

00:00 Intro
00:23 The Depression Switch
00:59 #1 Discounting the Positive
02:13 #2 Self-Punishment
02:54 #3 Blaming Yourself for Having Emotions
03:28 #4 Withdrawing from Life
04:05 #5 Numbing Behaviors
05:15 #6 Rumination
05:37 #7 Self-Neglect
06:57 #8 Waiting for Motivation
07:31 #9 Emotional Reasoning
07:54 #10 All-or-Nothing Thinking
08:26 Subconscious Mindsets that Feed Depression
09:33 These Habits Can Be Unlearned

Check out the transcript below:

Micro-Habits that Fuel Depression

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In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life’s direction.
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26 Comments

  1. 👍🥰 Based on my personal experience, all of your points are very accurate. Not always easy to make the changes but doing one or some of them usually helps to work your way back to better thinking. Good to see and hear them out loud. Thank you, must bookmark this to watch again.👍❤️

  2. I would have prefered more time spent on the POSITIVE aspects of each wooden block. It felt better and more motivational to hear the brief suggestions on how to change the mindset and behavior. My brain literally needs to hear it externally. (Just an honest reaction to the video. Visual was great, just needed more time spent on the parts that tipped the scale from depression to motivation.)

  3. Strategies work well if there is energy. If I have a bit I can manage, if there is too much exhaustions pain (ME/CFS etc.) I need to distract in order to survive. Energy = happy – no energy, no body functions, pain…. – depression

  4. All or nothing thinking is one of the most common cognitive distortions I see in my practice! It's so common and can be a tough one to break out of

  5. I will combine: do not neglect my basic needs and waiting for motivation to: move my body every day. And the topping of the cake will be: it is no matter what kind of movement it is, could be walking, yoga, running, or a 5minutes home workout. JUST DO SOMETHING EVERY DAY!

  6. Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

  7. Hi Emma, i want to thank you for your helpfull Video. My english ist not so good, i have to slow you down on 0,75 speed, and look at it more often with subtitles. But i hope it will help me, actually is a painfull time for my body and soul. First i want to start with seeing the good and worth in positiv things in my life.

  8. Makes my think of a poem by Charles Bukowski called "the shoelace"
    It goes something like, it's not a large thing that sends a man to the madhouse, it's not fire or flood, it's when the shoelace break. Meaning basically the cumulative stress. Think i'm going to re-read Bukowski. It's been at least 25 years, it was great therapy for me. A man that lived most of his life as a failure in society but kept his pride and dignity.

  9. As a therapist, thank-you so much for making these videos. I routinely send the Anxiety course to my clients as a way for them to get a solid foundation for understanding anxiety and I just found this depression series as well, so I will definitely be sending this to my clients that struggle with depression. Ofcourse I provide education too, but it's so much easier to have them watch the videos and discuss them in session and preserve that limited session time to go more in depth. I also personally benefit too and the information provides great reminders. Wish you were my therapist! LOL

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