The paradox of trauma-informed care | Vicky Kelly | TEDxWilmington
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Dr. Vicky Kelly has over 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, administrator, consultant and trainer. She is a nationally known trainer in the areas of trauma and attachment. Her career has included positions in a variety of human service, mental health, and child welfare organizations. She currently serves as the Director of the Delaware Division of Family Services . The common thread across her career has been helping victims of trauma heal. She has been an early advocate for human services to adopt “trauma-informed care,” an approach that calls for a focus not just on someone’s behavior, but, more importantly, on what drives behavior.
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Vicky: Do you think a 6 year old child should be forced into trauma-informed care?????
Thank you for sharing this message! It’s so powerful and still needed 8 years later. Thank you.
Teaching every person in a school, church, and business to listen with warm kindness and acceptance is healing because it teaches safety. Blessing and Grace informed relationships are the key!
Wow. Thank you so much for this talk. I’m 60 and still trying to heal from this. I’m glad this is becoming known. I almost feel it’s too late for me. You’re right it ends up effecting even the good that happens to us. It effects your whole life and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. It’s lonely. I need a group of women to heal alongside. Hopefully it will happen for those of us who most likely isolated like myself.
Addiction and Mental Professional here! this is one of the best Ted Talks ive seen! concise and packed with pertinent details!
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I work in the mental health field and this helped with the lil bit of burnout I got going on. It's important to remember that the people we serve are not making the choices we see as harmful because they "want to live like that" or they "don't care."
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Thank you. Finally people are catching up with what survivors have known/lived with all along… I am very grateful.
Neo-liberalism politics in human to human care smells like burnout to me 😞 a brain trauma survivor my first encounter with a doctor who knew of my injury before I did showed me my scan and said nothing ! 🫥 I said” do I have brain damage “and he looked at me as if I should feel sorry for him and he said “we don’t know”. End of communication. He left my side and the rest of the establishment sent me home without another word. I took it to mean “the brain is mysterious to us good luck”. 10 years later I tried to commit suicide went to the hospital they asked why did you do it I told them about my depression they said you have brain damage. I got more than depression folks. At least I’m not dead! And that’s the attitude In the health care system 🤒 not an easy fix HCS huh. Sometimes the answer is right in front of your healthy faces 🫥 can’t we do better America 😵💫😮💨😩😭
This video is great and serves as a reminder that we cannot judge others until we have walked in their shoes. Everyone has different experiences in life and should be treated with kindness for those differences. Childhood trauma can affect people for the rest of their lives and is more common than we think.
The "G" in Wilmington is driving me absolutely bananas.
Hi Vicky! So great to see you on TEDx 🙂 Thank you for the wonderful talk.
That was excellent.
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She looks like Brenda from young sheldon!
My Comment: Ms. Kelly started out her talk discussing how trauma has become a very common focus of today. Media, news, TV and casual conversations now focus on trauma. I have seen the shift as well and agree that this is a very focused on topic. I believe it is healthy to recognize trauma and find counseling to overcome the troubled past. I strongly believe that society focusing on micro trauma creates a victim mentality. Victim mentality includes searching ones past for any unfair act against them and categorizing it as trauma. This creates a place of helplessness with an external locust of control. How should we ever become overcomers if we are always in a state of victimhood?
As a baby mental health professional myself, its mind-blowing to me that trauma informed care is a "new" take in mental health care!!! Mind-blowing that that wasn't always the approach, it's so intuitive and now we finally have the evidence to back it.
My understanding of myself has significantly changed as a result of learning about developmental trauma. I have been in the mental health system most of my life as a result of developmental trauma but this was not acknowledged or even considered, I was just seen as for the list of individual diagnosis' that needed treatment and I was criticized when I "didn't get better". It is in my notes that I have had "a great deal of input but with very little success". Nobody thought to question if I was having the right input for me, which I now know I wasn't. I have been retraumatized and damaged by some of the methods of inappropriate treatment I received. I have started doing talks and workshops and youtube videos on my experiences to help those who want to understand the reality of childhood trauma.
Childcare, we need this! And more access to trauma informed training beyond the classroom. Please! I received the training while working human services for a while and then went back to childcare. The difference I noticed in my approach to each child was so different, and natural and good! Not to mention how learning about trauma informed care helped me to identify and deal with my deep childhood trauma. I could go on and on, but instead, to everyone, facilitating this forward movement thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
it might be a cop? the perso who sends a previously person on a healing journey? wtf…that's something only a white person can say…
It is so interesting to me that it has taken us so long as a society to come to terms with this!! We are all so quick to judge and blame others for their wrongdoings before looking to the root of the problem. This message is SO important, as having an open mind can positively impact those who have experienced trauma. I absolutely love the statement about changing our mindset from "What is wrong with you?" to "What has happened to you?" There is so much power in this mental shift.
They know all this knowledge, Yet they keep having wars and genocides.
I have negative feelings about this video. Probably because of my traumatized brain. Please fix me with your rhetoric
Thanks
There are so many open ended statements by Vicky Kelly. Take the zeitgeist soundbite of the moment "my message today is bigger than that – because trauma effects us all" sounds very dynamic and dramatic, except Kelly provides no evidence to back up the statement. Kelly goes on to state "we now know how to Heal trauma", again no examples are given as to how the "trauma Informed" approach is anything more than being a compassionate human being and treating everyone with respect – this has been a fundamental part of a caring society for some time now. Do we now have to get the psychology profession to repackage this and sell it back to us?
How does the "trauma informed" approach genuinely change a traumatised brain? where is Kellys examples off successful transformative therapy? I feel that this entire "trauma" grift will only open up doors for more victimhood, from young people who's ideas of "trauma" are not getting to choose their preferred training shoes or not getting to stay out late with their friends. The middleclass will absorb this wholesale and wear it like another virtue signalling badge of honour. This only detracts from bigger issues facing the genuinely marginalised, which governments are not willing to tackle.
Outstanding, informative presentation. Thank you!
I love that in 2024 we are discussing this so much more!
such a good video!
super interesting!
I asked for help with root causes. My so called lived experience is almost 40 years of synthetic sedation from being poly pharmacyed with no informed consent. At 61 on social security disability for multiple medical, not trusting western medical for today either. Not til there's more of my own me here.
Wow that’s good. Thank you for this speech.
Still advocating a disorder though , it's a natural position to take when encountering traumatic events that reorganise that ordinary world and we adapt to accommodate those events, sometimes our adaption isn't that helpful all the time