The Silent Crisis of Men’s Mental Health | Dustin Hogan | TEDxGrandviewHeights
The stigma around men’s mental health is a silent crisis—but it doesn’t have to be. Dustin Hogan, a men’s mental health counsellor and advocate, unpacks the damaging stigma that keeps men silent about their struggles. Through raw personal stories and actionable insights, he shows how breaking that silence can lead to healing, connection, and a brighter future for men everywhere.
Dustin Hogan is a men’s mental health counsellor and founder of Therapy For Dudes, a brand dedicated to reshaping the conversation around men’s mental health. Having walked his own path through anxiety and depression, Dustin believes that when men open up, they not only transform their own lives but also inspire a ripple of positive change in their families, workplaces, and communities. You can connect with him at TherapyForDudes.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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I know it's already 10 days in this month (June), but happy Men's Mental Health Awareness month!
I think all this really stems from inherited trauma, through our DNA. As we evolved as a species the roles that men were expected to do were geared towards violence and other tasks that were probably really hard to process and instead they just…. didn't. Because that's what's easier. Now we're left with all of this mess
I'm just glad someone finally said it: bottling it up doesn't make you strong, it makes you sick.
If you’re a man reading this “ if you can’t take the heat, get out the kitchen”😂
Society makes men feel bad when they even think about speaking up for any rights "youre a man, you can take it." While women are treated like emotional children that men must tend to nevermind what men need. Sad
In my experience the hardest part is reaching that point where you can't pretend you're okay anymore. It all gets easier after that.
I've lived it, too. And I agree with most of the video. In my situation, though, I tried to tell a lot of people, but no one would listen.
I just suddenly lost my wife of 40 years 5 months ago and last week I got laid-off. Hard, but not impossible to bear. To all you guys that fell like life isn't worth it, hang in there. give yourself the chance to get better and to know ppl that can support you, but most importantly, to know Jesus. His love is unconditional. Hit me right here if you need someone to talk to.
So many guys I know still think "talking = weakness." We really need to change that somehow.
Real talk, asking for help takes serious courage. Shoutout to all the dudes taking those steps
I wish more guys knew it's okay to ask for help ❤
Society really raised us to think crying makes us weak. Nah, crying saved me more than once.
Stay strong brothers.
You're not losers. You're human. And you struggle sometimes. That doesn't mean you're worthless.
I think a lot of it is also knowing the right people to ask for help… sometimes you open up to someone and they just don't get it
thnks for your story
Honestly needed this reminder. I always jump into fix-it mode when a friend vents, but sometimes they just wanna be heard.
Well things like this certainly help and I'm always happy to see men opening up about their emotions, helps make the crisis less silent!
It makes my heart sink to think my brothers are going through life secretly just struggling like this… will definitely try to create some space for them to talk to me as they grow up 💜
Men definitely need to open up to other men and friends
But i will say girlfriends and wives could do a better job not judging their mens issues or seeing them as weak or incompetent
Its very common for women to use mens vulnerabilities against them or look at them differently when they open up
If you can't handle a mans emotions then you're not a good woman
I don't have a job important enough to have "work trips".
Being a man shouldn't mean having to suffer in silence.
yea who cares women hate men nobody cares and than more men dies .because men needs women as part of them but women dont see that they eat all the privlidge and what they want unlike men who builds the world .
The "man up" stuff is so toxic. My dad always said that to me growing up and I probably say it to myself more than I should
Another part to this I think is drinking culture. A lot of male bonding happens around alcohol which is actually a depressant
It's incredibly refreshing to see content like this that doesn't vilify women
So much respect for the work he's doing.
Is there anything we can do to help create safe spaces for men to talk about their pain without judgement?
I am so freaking tired of the solution being to talk about it. Be vulnerable. Who are we going to vulnerable to? Our partners? At best we don't want to hurt them with our problems. Most often we don't think our partners really care about us one way or another. It is the sad truth that for most women, getting married is about what the man brings to the table. Whether that is finances, genetic material, influence, prestige you name it. Marriage for most women is transactional. So who are we going to be vulernable to… Answer me this question without saying therapists and then we can have a discussion.
It actually made me think about how I react when my mates open up. I probably haven't been that helpful.