The Number 1 Sign Of Avoidance
so there are some people whose life is dictated by their feelings they are propelled to action based on how they feel if I am curious about something I will look into it if I am excited about playing this video game I will play it these people who have their like their actions tied to their feelings also engage in a lot of avoidance this is the number one sign if you are living a life of avoidance this means that your actions are controlled by your emotions so I’m not going to do this because I feel embarrassed although you may not even realize that you’ll find that you seem stuck you don’t do much right and you’re like I don’t know why I do much and then this is a very good experiment that you can do go and try to do something and notice what happens within you what you will find is if you go and try to take some action some kind of very strong discomfort will arise and then what ends up happening why do you avoid because if you engage in that action it creates a negative feeling so in order to manage the negative feeling you avoid the situation
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So what do i got other than those negative feelings once i act those way?
Is this related to ADHD?
Ok… so how to stop being avoidant? Just languish in misery and force mind over matter until that thing is done?
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I probably have this in the sense that fruit punch is an alcoholic beverage, which may be a good sign I don't need to worry too much about it.
Right now I'm having a fever 🤒 which wouldn't go away
I noticed that my patience is super bad now and im very vengeful
So I will try to avoid social thungs for now,so i won't bleed on someone who is super disrespectful,i can't tolerate it for now
After I'm healed and im recharged i think I'll join again,all is my fault and i need to make myself better
This is so real it hurts, I didn't even realize I was lile this until I watched this. How does one go about fixing it?
Introverted Feeling
Can someone explain the key differences in experience between this and ADHD paralysis?
Isn't that just human behavior, on a core level?
What? IIs there people not guided by their feelings?
I didn't even realize I was avoidant. I just attributed it to anxiety and C-PTSD, but while it stems from that, I guess I am. I'm terribly emotionally driven. It's exhausting.
I consider myself reasonably unemotional, and I DEFINITELY consider my partner not to be feelings driven overall. But we both have avoidance tendencies for bad things. It seems to me like this would apply to more than just emotional people?
“Some people” mmmm You sure about that? 😬 lol
Sir, it's trauma after trauma for 25 years. Of course I'm gonna lose interest in everything in life and gonna be stuck. Whatever I do, it won't change the negative outcome; so, there's not much to do.
What if you avoid them becuase when you continued, you hit a point where it didn’t feel like it was worth as much as it actually is? No feeling of success or satisfaction in progress
I notice my response to stimuli of any kind (negative or positive) seems to be a fraction of the response of those around me. Some people live in the moment like dog basking in simple pleasures and I am often jealous of them. I can only satisfy curiosity or creativity left to my own devices
auch
Yeah I had no choice but to overcome this. The more the years went by the more I had no choice but to suck it up buttercup
Life would not be worth living if we didnt choose what to do based on the things we are excited about. Imagine living life ignoring all your passions.
There are tons of people who wonder about things and then dont look into it. They are awful and need to start leaning into that curiosity more. You should always learn at every given chance! There are too many people on this planet who refuse to go learn things. Im sorry but its not okay to just be like "I wonder" and not go find the answer! The reason technology advances and society progresses is curiosity. Learning after being curious is a sign of intelligence.
If you always feel a strong discomfort when dealing with certain people, peace will come when you avoid those people.
I thought everyones actions were driven by their emotions. I never considered the possibility that some people function unemotionally. My quality of life would improve immensely if I could achieve this!!
Aren’t emotions the ultimate motivator to do something? Isn’t discipline an emotion?
if my actions can not be dictated by MY OWN feelings they should be dictated by WHAT?
What do you do when you've done this your entire life putting yourself out of your comfort zone and you've worn your nervous and other systems completely out? 😅
I have this problem.
Is this not most or all people???? Feel like going grocery shopping? Nope just order it. Feel like going to work today? Nope, call in😂 feel like working out today?….(me just realizing nope this is just me😅) I think it stems from a veryyyyyy long period of 16 years of doing things I never wanted to do but have to do ( ie: go to school, make money, try to make more money, interview prep again and again and again! Workout, watch your calories, network, go to that thing you don’t wanna go to. Manage everybody’s expectations ALL OF THE TIME.) The routine of life became exhausting, unfulfilling and unrewarding😢 So now…doing what I feel feels right🤷🏽♀️
plz whats this video? link doesn’t work
Dude hit me in the face with a cartoon mallet right there. >_<
He is absolutely right. But now after 36 years of avoidance I keep on doing the action even if it creates discomfort and I also convince myself that the feeling is not me, it is the reaction of my consistency, it is temporary and I as a person strongly want to keep on doing the task at hand. As a result now a days I feel less uncomfortable now. It has also decreased my habit of procrastination.
I literally clicked off this video because I didn't like how accurate it was, and I realized I did the thing in the video lol, so I came back
A~P.D. ?
This is meeeeeeeeee
it’s not avoidant. rest and digest. return to homeostasis.
The paradox is that avoidant people thing and seem the most rational and logical, because they post-rationalize and justify all their thoughts and actions.
This is me! 😂
That's a very generalized way of putting it. So much so that even people who are NOT avoidant can be classified as such. We all go thru things we don't want to deal with and some of us just get tired of sucking it up.
I will wait until I’m married I learned my lesson
Cowards in short
I do this.
ah dang.
This is why exercise is good for you. Not just because of the physical benefits, but because it’s hard. Training yourself to do hard stuff makes everything else less hard.
The thing that society still doesn't understand is energy is THE BOSS. It dictates everything. The ONLY difference between someone avoidant and someone who's not is the energy within them. Avoidant behavior has mostly negative energy and conditioning driving that energy within that person.
Change the energy and the conditioning in tge emotional mind….aka the nervous system and subconscious mind and avoidant behavior transforms.
Adhd ppl
members only stream?….. bro. im convinced
now i have to find this stream somehow. I need help with EXACTLY that and i already knew i was avoidant