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What Might “Trigger” Someone with BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder



What Might “Trigger” Someone with BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder

Clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula outlines some communication styles or topics that could “trigger” someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

WATCH more of this series with Dr. Ramani, “Borderline Personality Disorder: The Family Guide to Healing” here: https://medcircle.com/series/bpd-family-strategies-53753/

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  4. @heartlessfox8065 on

    some people don't get the tone thing, this triggered part of my PTSD too where i would argue with my ex about the tone they were using and how it hurt me to get "what f#%king tone?" but to be fair at that time i didn't know i had BPD till i went to a therapist after, so didn't really have a way to explain what about it bugged me and made me feel…. well worthless.

  5. @rc1952 on

    I’m wondering why the doctor answering does not realise or care that she has brown hair dye all over her forehead? Why her hair dresser did not wipe it off when she did her grey roots? This is becoming a common sight with news readers as well. They dye hair often to appear on TV but the marks at the edge of the hair line are left on. I am guessing that is what it is. It appears to be a lot of brown hair dye used in getting rid of her greys.

  6. @bunglejoy3645 on

    My triggers people not doing their job right ,most people just get a bit irritated ,i go whosh not in public as much as when i get home i have a meltdown and can be off my baseline for a few days.
    Talking or just thinking about loss of my mum and my dog from years ago.
    Attending hospital on my own would be a massive trigger for me.
    If someone is less friemdly than they were especially if they were one of my bff.
    People stood in groups inside a building, and i have to pass them dosent as much trigger me as put me on edge.

  8. @NFPthings on

    It's crazy how triggered I am by people withdrawing psychologically and emotionally. Yet I do both unintentionally. Then get blamed for doing it as a manipulation. Which is extremely triggering. Having my intentions, morals and values misunderstood in the most hurtful and critical fashion. This seems to be common in my past. Navigating my triggers and trauma responses was like deciphering a hieroglyph before I started learning about my personality, my trauma, its origins, and my patterns throughout life. All I knew was that it hurt but nothing hurt more than hurting others unintentionally. Which of course led to self-abandonment and dissociation. Which led to an Inability to look inward. I'd go clean up the ditches around town, while neglecting to mow my own lawn. Pain. That's what I know. "Follow the pain." In what direction? Look within. It's hard to do in an Ne-Te loop as a 10 year old.

  13. @mroosie7488 on

    My mum has this, and just this morning she called to tell me she was cutting contact with me and my siblings. She was abusive to us growing up, yet I still tried over and over to maintain and even encourage a relationship with her. I’ve now realised that while I do love her, I can’t keep sacrificing my own well-being to tiptoe around her moods, constantly afraid that the wrong word or look might set her off.

    When she told me she was cutting us off, I simply said “okay” and hung up. There was no fight left in me. I am tired not just physically, but down to my soul. I am emotionally wrung dry.

  14. @jenlazee on

    What about when they pick a fight about one little detail when you're talking about a bigger picture and then can't stop talking about that and move the conversation.

  16. @treyfisse8593 on

    When my wife disregards anything that I say will basically set me on a rampage. My personality has completely fucked my life up and I blame her. All I wanted was my family close to me and she just couldn’t have that. Abandonment? 😆. Numero Uno. Jesus. You seemed to have known who I am my entire life in 15 seconds and I have never met you. Thank you. Someone gets it.

  17. @Paul-f9j6w on

    Lady you're saying we can't speak to abandonment we can't just be quiet and take it I mean everything's about them them them them them them what about us what about the families

  21. @Paul-f9j6w on

    I just got out of a 12yr relationship with a woman what has BPD I didn't find out till 7-8years ago I was trying to get my ducks in a row for divorce but I loved her but by this point it was affecting our children when out of the blue she said I need a break , this was 08/08/2025 ,I found out the hard way these psychotic fucks are the Uber hypocrites everything she claimed to hate or couldn't live with she did to me and these children I hope a wretched soul rots in hell for what she's done to these kids my 10-year-old daughter has never had a mother she has driven this precious little angel 😇 into a depression that is going to take years of love and professional help to unwind , I know I'm a Christian I shouldn't be saying the things I say cuz it's not christ-like but I am so angry right now I cannot control myself and to top everything else off she stole my childhood shotgun that me and my father picked pecans when I was 12 to earn she fucking stole it it was for my son 7yr when he got older complete narcissistic psychopath oh I've been called a narcissist for 12 years what a damn joke like I said I'm not acting very Christian now and I'll have to ask God for forgiveness but if any of y'all in a relationship with a person with BPD I will include y'all in my prayers and ask God to help with your safe escape

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