Why Some Women Feel Unlovable… ? (And How to Heal) #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I unlovable?”… This short might give you some ideas why you feel it.
Why do you feel it?
– The Question That Haunts Us
– The Caretaker’s Burden
– Wanted vs. Loved
– Living Through Others’ Eyes
– Romanticized, Not Seen
– The Exhaustion of Perfection
– Comparison Culture & Self-Doubt
– Walls Built by Hurt
How to heal it?
– Receiving Love Without Guilt
– Boundaries Create Connection
– One Real Moment Can Change Everything
– Self-Compassion Is the Key
– You Don’t Need to Be Perfect to Be Loved
Healing starts with awareness, boundaries, and connection.
#mentalhealth #healingjourney #selflove #traumarecovery #boundaries #emotionalwellness #youareenough #shorts #selfworth #youtubeshorts
33 Comments
Feeling unlovable isn’t weakness — it’s often a trauma response. Drop a 💔 if this hit home, or a 💖 if you’re healing.
💖💖💖💖
A video about me
I feel unloved and I am wanted in 35 states
Still better than feeling invisible.
Nice video. I do feel unlovable, but I feel like everytime I watch something on this topic, it always lists the same reason (appearance, comparisons, bending to 'old social norms' etc.) but none of this applies to me.
For me, most my relationships are great, and then without warning people switch, say I'm terrible, and go cold or ghost me, and noone is willing to tell me why they suddenly changed their mind, so I would be interested in their logic.
Also generaly speaking I would appreciate, if you made those topics more diverse and less about just appearance or orientation, not everyone struggles with those.
So like I have I question, my Partner struggles with this badly, this video sounds like her. It doesn't help I have my own traumatic experiences with women so we are working through our stuff together. what I am getting at is, how can I as her partner help her through this. thank you 🙏
how to stop brain chattering and recognize it?
You might follow every single advice given in this video. But how would you pretend the others will always automatically behave nice with you, just because you followed some kind of instructions trying to improve yourself? Truth is… no one care. If you don't fit expectations, you're just a bad bet… Why should someone try harder is it's so simple moving on to next?
I had a relationship that failed because she had this exact thing… She couldn't receive love authentically 🙁
Keep it up Guys.
❤
Love thy self first …this any gender.
Im gonna be honest, I was once the other side of the coin:
I used to date and love a girl qho constantly said she didn't deserved to be loved or to receive my love
I told her countless times she desrved it, I was always present and give as much space as was needed while trying to be always present, I used to help with anything she might needed or wanted.
Im not gonna lie, I wasn't the best boyfriend, but I gave it all, one day, she stopped comparing only herself to other girls online and started comparing… Me… She even got to cry because "she wasnt lovable enough to be loved by a rich guy"… Yep, such stab really hurts.
Funny enough, her dream became true, one rich dude left his wife for her and she cheated on me and ended up leaving me for that guy, now, after all the support I gave, Im the one who is alone…
Not every story has a happy ending, and putting all your effort doesnt mean things will go right neither, and my point here is, be careful, everyone deserves love, but not everyone deserves "your" love, not every person appreciates you no matter how hard you try, learn when to say "no more", it might save you from further pain.
💔 I know that I am "lovable"…or do I? I "believe" I am lovable. Yes, this definitely hit home. All of this hit home. As for healing, every time I feel like I am….💥🤯. Definitely the caretaker, the support system…never the cared FOR, the SUPPORTED. Stuck, trapped, no way out. Too many people depend on me to walk away.
This is tough.. if you feel unlovable just know you are NOT unlovable ❤
I never felt seen or heard. I never felt good enough . Im 62 now. I found out abused ar age 2 that was shock thought I was 5 happened once my truth thetruth e was worse never thought had ahorrificchildhood I know different now
I m happy next thing I'm crying. Makes sense the brain protects itself from reality. Last 12 months worse mental health i first had I believe 12 then at 15. I've lived with violence and abuse. I have more fight and flight and always wary. I would love not be so wary of others and to feel safe never felt safe.
This is good understanding truama responses.
Lately i was craving for head petting and hug from my family but then when i try to Ask them i feel so awkward and weird, why is that? And Why did i crave for attention? And does it Connected to my past when i didnt get much attention from anyone's and When i was Alone most of the time.
I remember that my mom was the reasoning for my fear of love and this made me blame myself for letting myself be hurt so harshly after therapy and self reflection I slowly began to realize that it wasn't my fault and shouldn't keep being the therapist to others but at times I still I'm scared of falling in love but I know this still the beginning of my healing journey.
While some of what you said in this is true, it's not the full reason, at least not for me. I got bullied a lot in school, people treated me like even touching me was the end of the world. Going so long like that makes you believe no one could ever love you.
But i feel the same as a male tho😅
I use to have that voice… then it was proven right, and drowned out by other voices. I am unlovable, unworthy, unsought, and left alone.
Also psych2go I love how you guys look through the comments and take the time to respond 🙂 I hope y’all have a good day and keep making videos like these!!!!!!! They really have helped me especially to become aware of myself so thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💔💔💔💔💔💖💖
psych2go i have a question?
Why is it when people let you help them and then they turn around and say, oh I don't need you help? and stuff like that.
I did get shut down a lot, almost each time i try to suggest something or even when i get caught silent crying i would get yelled at.. it’s their own problems they pretend they accept emotions but they don’t, and have laid that problem on me.
Sure it’s a normal thing to go through and it’s not much to say but it still feels good to have someone who genuinely listens and im still growing
Thank you for reminding me 🙌
One perception I have of why women might feel unlovable is the constant nagging by cosmetics companies who continue to push the narrative that "you're ugly if you don't wear our lip gloss / eyeliner / foundation" etc. I get that there are a multitude of other reasons (bullying / family issues / trauma and so on) as to why women can feel unlovable but if a woman is always told that she is ugly if she hasn't applied something that covers her natural beauty then she's supposedly automatically ugly.
The day that cosmetics companies go bust will be a great day for humanity and for improving women's mental health.
Being unlovable is a way to avoid more heartbreak.
A big reason why I became transmasc. The social pressure of being a woman is so painful, and they still get put down for how much they put into society. Down with the patriarchy!!!! RahhhhhhAaaa!!!!
Hi
That last sentence had me crying
Completely unrelated, but I need to know:
How do I ask someone out?
My school has 4 dances a year, a fall one, a winter one, a spring one, and a summer one. The fall one is in a couple weeks, and I need someone to go with me, and there is a girl I like but I’m scared to talk to. How do I ask her out????