What is the most important influence on child development | Tom Weisner | TEDxUCLA

If you could do one thing – the most important thing – to influence the life of a young child, what would that be (it’s likely not what you first bring to mind)? We want to improve the wellbeing of children – our own, in our community, and in the world, so thinking globally about this question is vital.

Tom Weisner is an emeritus professor of anthropology and psychiatry at UCLA. He studies and teaches about culture and human development; families and children at risk; and evidence-informed policies to improve the lives of children and families. He has done research in Kenya on the effects on children and parents of rural-urban migration; in Delhi, India on families and children with autism; supports for working poor families in Wisconsin; families with children with disabilities in Los Angeles; hippie and countercultural families and children in California; sibling caretaking and education in Hawaii; non-parental and sibling caretaking around the world; and gratitude and school achievement among Latino adolescents and families in Los Angeles. He has served on the Board of the NGO ChildFund International. He went to Reed College (BA) and Harvard (PhD). He is married to Susan Meade Weisner, and has two sons and four beautiful grandchildren.

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30 Comments

  1. "Wow, I love how informative and engaging this video is! The tips on child development are so helpful and practical. I’m definitely going to try some of these with my little one. It’s great to see more channels focusing on raising confident and creative kids. Keep up the amazing work! 👍
    By the way, I just posted a new video on my channel, Kids Evolve, that dives into fun activities to help children grow and learn. Feel free to check it out at 4:30 Looking forward to your thoughts! 😊"

  2. What do children need?

    Procreation/conception:

    Man and woman should bee free of traumatic stress, who are in a really happy partnership, whith healthy bodies, nourished with enough natural micronutrients, who do not smoke and who optimally avoid alcoholic drinks, especially in case of desire for a child.

    Pregnancy:

    The mother should avoid heavy lifting, she must avoid smoking and alcoholic drinks, should also be free of psychological stress, get enough sleep and care very well for her body, furthermore go to the gynaecologist for the preventive examinations

    The father should support her refering to the homework, besides show her that the child is welcome

    Birth:

    The Mother needs a pleasant, relaxing atmosphere, a competent and sensitive midwife, not more medical interventions as necessary, no matter if she is at home or in hospital. The wishes of the mother should preferably be fulfilled.

    The newborn baby should instantly! be put on the body of its mother, except when the baby´s life is in danger and medical treatment is needed urgently. The placenta should pulse out before somebody will cut it for the reason that the baby has a smoothe transition into life out of the womb.

    First 3 years:

    They´re the most formative years for a child. Most important is a heathy mother-child bonding.

    It´s absolutely not advantageous for the psychological health of a child in this age to be given into a childrens day center, in contrary: It can be traumatic for such a little child because it is noch yet ripe for a separation for hours.

    It needs a lot of possibilities for its free developpment, but not t

    oo many toys. it´s much more important that the parents let her child use all its senses to discover the world and that they also play with him/her, preferably outside in the nature because children have a natural urge to move.

  3. Coming from a WEIRD country and working with children in the East, my answer to this question doesn't change. Children need love and kindness to grow into healthy adults. Love is patience, understanding, equality, and discipline. Where you are changes was certain things look like, but teaching them how to love is the most critical to their development.

  4. The most important influence on a child’s development is curiosity. When children and adults lose our “why?” we stop learning and developing.

  5. Good condicts like me good habits no bad ones show pir good examples tp child can't guide them bai very guai giao mothery son better than him alsp.
    Son only can see my gp0di don't javenadlet son see
    He has lots of bad sp how to show examples tp son
    He cunning guytry to push but actually is he cos I perfect gopdotjer with excellent cpmdicts in my own worls with excellent behavpir disciple etc
    He won't have al these cps he 9 years keep do bad I nv do

    ,can guide so alpt can teach him alpt good alrvrry good and pass nvgiidehil bad
    He guidehis son bad cos comoot crimes can escape is it wrongguideoffecnescan hide are the wronfguide henv show good examples 0 uearsiseen so much ifatoffi
    I teachy so don't flirt don't play love be honest done greedy sontlepe lies wpek hard don't lazy when I don't lazy at work be responsible ne good child don't bad temper don't steal aremti no good ext efti really teach
    But he teach ishson so much bad
    I well discipline who saunot is he not
    Sleep are becos house n son not goput play fun
    So nothing wrong
    His online cheat flirt play love with others so is he good father
    I know he is tryingtp accuse again correct
    Rem all reh bad he done are his karma with action my response to his they say not mine so better stop keep bad hearted
    Bad hearted most karma he need thanks me advise he begoodspdont get les kaahe need thanks me everyday I pray god bless all people good ok though hehurt me n kill me half dead but I still kind everyday pray god bless him also I just advise him don't dp nadgppd for him he don't listen rjen canrbeu karma
    Also good for all he harm n hack but I am aurehe hack alot but harm only men family that is why I hate him so much so much
    I treat him the truest n the best he can sp heartless

  6. I just wanted to bring this point up. We are not a Democratic Society. We are a federal republic society but this is a good video other than we are not a Democratic society. We are a federal republic.

  7. The video was posted when I kid was born, and until now, 8 years later, YouTube recommended it to me. Google definitely needs to improve its algorithm.❤

  8. "Blev du udsat for seksuelt eller fysisk misbrug?" De betegner nogle som vrangforestillinger.
    "Har du mareridt?" De vil sige, at ethvert mareridt eller flashback bare ved at tænke på ulykken er en hallucination.
    "Har du nogensinde følt dig utryg?" De siger, at nogle er paranoide eller vrangforestillinger.
    Disse er ikke såkaldte dygtige, uddannede fagfolk. Disse er usikre, viljesvage, manipulerende og ekstremt perverse arbejdere.
    Normalt uattraktive, rovdyragtige kvinder, der er bittert ugifte og har jalousi på familier eller børn. Og rovdyragtige, voldelige mænd, der udnytter dette, og de vil beskytte hinanden for at udnytte flere børn til ungdomsproblemer og psykiatriske "sundhedsfaciliteter".
    Alle disse steder er også fulde af rovdyr, seksuelt misbrug og vold.
    Børn helt ned til to år er målrettet, og de får besked på at forblive så unge som muligt. "For at hjælpe". I mellemtiden vil disse oplevelser resultere i, at et barn i DFHS- eller CPS-systemet har 6 gange større sandsynlighed for at dø end et frit barn. Status Forbrydelser som at løbe væk fra plejefamilier eller voldelige hjem er også grundlag for fængsling, og politiet går efter disse børn, som derefter betragtes som kriminelle.
    Spørgsmål til børneforsorgen
    "Har du nogensinde kæmpet for at forsørge dit barn?"
    "Har du brug for madhjælp?"
    "Bekymrer du dig nogensinde om dette barns fremtid?"
    De siger derefter, at forælderen er uansvarlig, uegnet, ustabil eller omskiftelig. De vil kidnappe barnet og placere dem i det samme plejefamiliesystem. Børneforsorgen og DCFS er ren ondskab og bør ikke stoles på. De er ikke retskafne, ærlige eller anstændige mennesker. De er degenererede, usikre og rovdyr. Offerbebrejdelse og menneskelig retfærdiggørelse er krigsforbrydelser mod lovlydige borgere.
    De vil sige, at uskyldige mennesker har "dårlige ideer", eller at der er "sandsynlig årsag til fare for forælderen eller patienten", at ingen er blevet skadet. Der gøres intet forsøg på at undersøge disse påstande, de er inkompetente og urørlige.
    Det er ikke uskyldigt, de ved, hvad de laver, og er fuldt ud i stand til at stoppe, men nyder magten. Kopier indsæt og spred denne besked, tak.
    Mental sundhed som system har så meget korruption og udnyttelse af mennesker for penge, at det eneste svar er, at man lærer at være stærk på egen hånd og laver sin egen research med podcasts, miljøforandringer og bøger. En sundere kost, te, en fredelig hobby, hold dig væk fra stressfaktorer. Det er alt, hvad du behøver.
    Jeg elsker disse spørgsmål, det er meget vigtigt at vide om sygepleje. Vigtigere end sikkerhed er det at uddanne børn om sygepleje, og hvad det egentlig er.
    Sukkerholdig sødme, manipulerende kommentarer, der får dig til at have det dårligt, at søge personlige oplysninger.
    Terapisamtale
    Når de først lærer om rovdyr, kan de være sikre, ikke kun online, men også i livet.
    Børn bør heller ikke lære at være så lydige over for regeringen eller alle som muligt, men at sætte spørgsmålstegn ved deres omgivelser og tænke selv. Ellers er de lam til slagtning.
    Alle bør lære uafhængigt, sundt oprør og mulig konspiration, så de kan forstå farerne og beskytte sig selv og undgå det, når de kan, fordi det er overalt.
    Og jeg mener overalt. Jeg ser frem til at undersøge, hvad der egentlig sker med børn på hospitaler og unge mennesker overalt. Hvordan de udnytter de mest sårbare for penge og går efter dem, da folk i disse job ofte er pædofile eller voldelige.

  9. How do we set are younger generation's up for the long term success not only in the physical realm, but they're overall mental an physical, well-being as well, and how do we implement that? According to the environment and dynamics of their surroundings, What will be best for them to have max amount of value and quality of life for the long for thr long term.

  10. Most babies are severely physically handicapped geniuses. Treat them as that with a lot of loving one on one time and they will be awesome.
    It is a short window of opportunity, then they go to school to be converted into NPCs

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