Caregiver Training: Refusal to Bathe | UCLA Alzheimer’s and Dementia Care

And now you want our pitty 😂

My mum just says No. That’s it.

I get more from the commnets then these fluffy videos. That lady got in the shower and let the caregiver clean them….that would get me punched or worse. Truth is no one should have to be mentally abused by a loved dementia parent….i think in aome cases outside help is the only way…aomeone whos emotionally unattached to the parent cuz its gonna be a fight either way which deteriorates the relationship w the parent and son/daughter who ia the caregiver. At a point for thwor better health and ur sanity a nurse needs to come in. I hate big pharma cuz they causes this dementia althzimers epidemic w thier statins and over prescribing doctors r just as guilty. Anyone wonder why generations ago this wasnt common?!?! And Amlodepine causes depression and softenting of the bowel and bladder muscles furthering issues w bathing and combative epoaides. Its pure evil that pharma has this much control over our lives. My great great granny lived to be 103 in the mountains, no doctor, no prescriptions and thats for a reason. HELLLOOOOO ANYONE AWAKE YET!?!?

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After reading some of these comments I realize I don’t have it quite so bad…yet. Living with someone who I suspect may be in early stages of dementia but hasn’t been diagnosed, enhanced by alcoholism who hasn’t bathed in 2 months, won’t even brush his teeth. Praying for all us caregivers to have the strength and patience to deal with our circumstances and preserve our own sanity

They would say that already had shower today

Sometimes it's even harder than to take care of a fully-grown Great Pyrenees 🐶

This video is a joke.. not reality

I use to throw my mom's clothes in the dryer to warm them. It helps I let her feel them , she thinks they are warmer and would change. She had brain damage.

As an aged care worker myself I find Choice helps and always framing it as something a little differently helps sometimes I’ll ask my dementia residents something simple like “ oh how’s your leg is there still a bit of ache and pain “ and it’ll 99% of the time be a yes and I’ll say “ hmm you know honestly sometimes a warm shower just helps so much I know I’ll always feel better after one “ things like that help the idea of a shower to soothe an ache instead of needing it for hygiene which they feel is already completed helps or sometimes I do try a spa approach I’m like let’s have a nice shower we’ll use all your pretty products your nice smelling shampoo etc and I stay committed the whole time chatting with them and making them feel as pampered and special as possible I’ll usually follow by using their favourite outfits and make up even even with some residents I’d say oh no we have soemthing on the back of your pants or shirt etc why don’t you come with me and I’ll help you change giving them the option to pick out a top if they are able to and then just reassuring them usually trying to redirect the conversation being a familiar face helps cause the first month vs the sixth month makes a lot of difference subconsciously they know you and learn to trust you some days I sit there and we agree and they go okay let’s to my care and shower and it’s always a complete 180 in the shower with just pauses and as much reassurance inbetween sometimes it is always a fight and it just takes a lot of time patience and allowing them to regulate as they can before continuing they aren’t going to be happy but afterwards I always sit there and go hey are you okay ? We did everything just like I said can you remember how I said we were going to do x y and z ? Yeah okay I’m glad are we okay to still be friends ? ( this being said I always remind them I’m their nurse/caregiver but also that I’m a friend someone they can trust and rely on ) and I tend to ask if it’s okay if we can do a hug etc and it helps so much making sure before and after doing tasks especially hygiene related that are personal and hard on them that I check on them makes them a lot more calm cause even after showers etc they can be in a pretty stinky mood with you after haha but I find with that reassurance afterwards that is dramatically decreases or ceases completely always hard I hope what I’ve said makes sense and even maybe helps another person 🙂

This sounds like me with my husband.

that doesn't work for combative people. My father thinks he had a shower the day before and refuses another. You make it look easy in this video when it is far from that

This video is amazing – I couldn’t stop watching!

Thank you I really appreciate you lessons.

I did this role as a carer with a team. Sometimes alone. Dignity,respect and all the other aspects of our role to build trust and keep that trust. Now retired myself yet enjoyed those years. It is a special field of special people caring for various backgrounds. The importance of reporting changes is paramount.

Many reasons why ppl won't bathe with dementia
Colour of the floor , can cause issues, sensation of water on the body , can cause the sensation of hailstone hitting the body hard like rocks ,
You mention diversion yet don't explain it

You don't explain what can cause a person to refuse p,c

If all clients was that easy to work with be a doddle to bathe them
But they are not

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