Stop Glamourising Mental Health

The hardest part about doing a free clean is figuring out where I can go to the toilet. And when I used this toilet for the first time, I cried. What I’m about to say might be seen as controversial, but live, laugh, love. I’ll say it anyway. I’m tired of seeing poor mental health glamorized online. I’m tired of seeing terms like bedrotting being used to frame depression as a mardy, poetic aesthetic. The truth is, a lot of people find mental health easy to support when it looks pretty. But when it looks like a neglected home or a dirty toilet seat, those same attitudes change very quickly. I truly believe silence and stigma fuel suicidal thoughts. And I believe that most normal, decent people wouldn’t dismiss poor mental health as laziness or as a choice if they understood the suffering behind it. Cuz no one chooses to live like this. And since I always get asked, the best way you can support these free cleans for people in need is simply by watching them to the end and then commenting on them. You’re the reason we’ve been able to give so many people a fresh start. You’re the best. Right, pop your shoes on, bestie. We’re going to B&M cuz this bathroom is very nearly almost clean. So now it’s time to get some goodies. And yeah, I might have gone slightly over budget. But selfcare is mental health care. So as Endubs would say, no regrets. I just want the man living here to be excited to use this bathroom. I want him to feel comfortable in his home again and remind him that he’s worth it. If you’re watching this video and you are struggling with your mental health, you’re not alone and there are people out there that can help. I’m just a girl who cleans for free on the internet. So, if you look in my bio, you’ll see a list of resources organized by country that can help anyone struggling find the right professional support. Thank you for watching, Smoochie. I love you.

#cleaning #transformation #homeimprovement #mentalhealth

50 Comments

  1. My life isn’t even that bad, but I get that “normal” people don’t understand struggle, I have had a lot of traumatic experiences and I’m trying to stay clean rn (s/h) and my whole life people have told me me that it’s not that bad and that I’m overdramatic. People need to realize that they don’t know anything. Surroundings reflect one’s mind. Keep that thought present.

  2. Your videos help me understand my own tendencies and also when I come home to my girlfriends home after she's had a rough few months and the house isn't in what you'd call ship shape. Depression isn't laziness and that mentality has helped me to feel good about helping her back on her feet rather than resentful about the situation. Same can be said for roommates I've had as well as family members I lived with. Supporting each other's mental health in relation to their cleaning habits is the best way of keeping a shared living area clean and livable.

  3. This looks amazing! Your videos help so many people. We never know what someone is going through when it comes to mental illness. Thank you for everything you do! ❤❤❤

  4. As someone who's just as sick and tired of glamorized mental health, I couldn't agree more. I have two parents who are therapists and we all talk about how annoying and dangerous it is to make mental health struggles some kind of athletic. Thank you for saying it.

  5. Here’s a comment, Bea. I hope your channel continues to grow to support these cleans, and gets your voice heard by others around the world. It’s so true- no one chooses to live like this. The mess is a symptom of a bigger problem. Thank you for being such a wonderful human. 🩵

  6. Due to piss poor medical care of which over the past 6-7 years i was paying and extra $1500-2000 a year for concierge service from my primary care that I've been with for 21 years and during the bribem administration our doctor patient relationship started to go south when i refused the jab. When he asked me why i said i didn't trust this administration or fauci and he said he thought fauci was an honorable man…but then i learned his son was a blm supporter…so a long story short he started falling short on getting me to outside diagnostics thinking, i guess that the concierge model covered the tests of all hidden conditions so it's been 3 years of unresolved issues that im soon to find out if we're dealing with kidney problems, i was turned out of my appointment twice to take 2 walkins ??? Concierge, walkins? Uh nooo. I had to rebook and return for a hip injection. Now im trying to find a new primary care and it's been 6 weeks and records haven't been forwarded and my pain meds have been cut in half…a treatment I've been on since 1996, prior states, Texas has better health care than any blue state. So my pain levels are way up and i can't get the physical therapy that i need because health clubs in nys give trans men full access to women's locker rooms. I haven't been able to get to a pool since this woke crap started. So yes my house is going to hell. I have 2300sq ft. and an acre. I keep things fairly clean but the clutter is really piling up. I took care of my dad until he passed in2021 at 97yo so back then i was still doing quite well. My blood pressure went haywire after my dad died and the following year i lost my doberman and a couple of months later 2 cats…due to a vet that i didn't regularly use but also because of the covid nonsense i lost a groomer for my terrier. Im in my early 70s and did 10 years in the military, combat trained and LE. I was also a fitness/aerobics instructor for 10 years back in the 80s..i have a bachelor's degree. I thought these were supposed to be the golden years and all i can say is the bribem scumallah years have turned it to lead. Poisoned. The hypocratic oath isn't even considered anymore. I used to have a wonderful organizer that was awesome but she's retired so that was 16+ years ago and i need her again. I don't want someone to come in and do it for me i just want help. I deal with adhd, bipolar, and ptsd. Im what they refer to as a functional depressive, but im falling down… i want to get up but i can tell this winter just might kill that desire..did I mention SAD? Seasonal affective disorder. Not a good time of year especially in nys… the very reason i got out of here in the 70s. Why did i come back everyone asks, to take care of my mom and dad. I was beyond blessed with the best parents God could give. They never saw a nursing home other than mom , by negligence, got admitted to a memory home and 3 days we go to visit and THEY CUT OFF HER FRIKKEN HAIR….AND THEY CHARGED US. i got her released that day and she went to hospice where she passed 12 hours later. Congestive heart failure…undiagnosed. 😪🤬do not move to ny…city or state. Hochul is running this state into a sink hole. Doctors are being bought up by private equity firms as are our veterinary clinics. Losing those pets in 2022 cost me about $3000. My vet quit/ retired. But i digress…sorry for the run on but i at least think, as i am lucky to have an awesome mental health doctor…im being treated with Spravado. I did a ketamine series in 2017 and the results were profound, but again the buydung administration has seriously upped the mental health issues to include suicides. After shutting people and jobs down he did sooo much damage. We'll come out of it but it's going to be a slow recovery as long as the leftist subtrifuge continues. What makes me sicker is im probably not going to live long enough to see the other side of the recovery..of America. Pray i can get out of here and move back to Florida. I was there in Miami from 73-79. When Castro emptied his prisons and the Marielito boat people landed…the liberty city riots took off and the rest is history..the communist history millennial snowflakes haven't learned about so they want to give it a try…there's a lifetime of misery that they will never get back. Go spend some time in a third world country that hates white Christians and then come back and vote in a Muslim and live under sharia law. Like jews that voted for Hitler due to ignorance i want to be a fly on the wall when the lgbtq community has to survive under a Muslim dictator. Maybe go pick your favorite cliff now. The one that they will throw you off of to end your existence you dirty infidels. Biblical History 101.. see i told you i was sick. The good news is I'm aware of it. Fortunately it was also my major minor. But as with law enforcement becoming a mental health practitioner has also become very dangerous. My bffs daughter was a psychologist and the gave her a serial female killer who spent his hour describing all the disgusting things he planned to do to his future victims. She's out of that career field and is teaching art in a high school in Texas. 👍 thank you for your service.

  7. I literally cannot clean my room because i just can't bring myself to do it, and just tell myself its not worth it cause it'll be dirty again in a few days, i currently have 16+ dishes in my room and majority of them are moldy but i won't take them out because i don't want my parents to see them, but their never out of the house at the same time. I can also barely do my school work without it being unbearable to sit their and do it any longer, and i don't have anyone forcing me to do it cause im homeschooled, and im nearly 15 lol, i hope someone comments that kids can't have mental problems just so i can laugh at it.

  8. As a psychiatric nurse practitioner and someone living with anxiety and bipolar disorder, I can't thank you enough for spreading awareness of the devastating impacts of mental health disorders ♥

  9. Thank you so much! It's so refreshing to here people talk about how mental health is joked about and perceived as cute when it's a real hard thing people struggle with as someone who used to be suicidal (I'm fine now) it's nice to here people talk about how it really is a struggle for lots of people!

  10. I honestly never realy talk about it, and i do have a few diagnosis because of it;
    but i am thankfull for your videos, my mom has an mental illness herself and i lived most of my life in a home even worse than this video…

  11. It's so insane to me how people have lived in these homes… Because they haven't. They've been surviving. How can people be so vile as to act like people choose to be depressed? To have anxiety? To have hoarding problems? To say these people are just 'lazy' shows how ignorant people can be

  12. I live my life in bed atm because of chronic illness, and no one bats an eye. Someone else lives like that because of mental illness and everyone judges, as if mental illness cant be just as bad as physical illness 😮‍💨

  13. Honestly, just hearing you talk about people like they're human no matter what the state of their home is does so much for destigmatizing mental health. As someone who also struggles with mental health, knowing that no matter what you would treat me like a whole person means the world

  14. You are awesome! I’m going a clean for someone I met recently. All free but I will have to work several days on his schedule. It’s ok.. I’m hoping it will improve his mental state as well with no clutter and things clean & organized!