THIS is The Narcissist’s WHACKO Response To YOU Establishing Boundaries
Now this may this shocks people to the core because they may never they may have started the relationship off never asking for a need to be met always acquiescing always compromising always cleaning up after the narcissist always helping the narcissist and suddenly you say um would it be okay or I’d like to do it this And the narcissist has a Mickey fit. They go ballistic and say, “It’s all about you, isn’t it? Everything is all about you always.” And the person is left left absolutely flumxed. What is actually going on here is the narcissist is baiting you into an argument to get some good out of the situation when you’re actually putting a boundary in or asking for your needs to be met. And they’re trying to reestablish control by basically saying how you know how dare you how dare you ask for your needs to be met. I’m in charge here now. you better get used to that and better start to appreciate me even though you’ve been appreciating the narcissist for hell on 18 months or whatever. So, they’re not going to stand you standing up for yourself, putting a boundary in and ruining the heyday that they’re actually having with you as their source of supply and sucking your energy, your life force out of you, unbeknownst to you until you realize you’ve nothing left in the tank. And you’re desperately asking or saying, you know, I actually I need rest here. I need something to come my way here. And you suddenly, you know, you realize it’s it’s unequal. So, they’re baiting you into an argument so that you will stop stop trying to get your own needs met, that you will not go there again. And they’re also projecting. They’re all saying it’s all about you always, isn’t it? Which is exactly what it is about the narcissist. It’s always about the narcissist. So, it’s literally spewing up, projecting onto you that it’s all your fault and it’s always about you. Whereas the exact opposite is the truth. It’s all about the narcissist. Number three, if you really Oh, yeah. If you really loved me, you know this old cling clang. If you really loved me, you would do this for me. It’s obvious you don’t the old emotional blackmail um the emotional coercion
Discover the shocking reactions narcissists have when you finally establish boundaries. Learn why narcissists panic, manipulate, or lash out the moment you stand up for yourself. This short explains the common tactics narcissists use, how to recognize their behavior, and what you can do to protect your mental and emotional health. Perfect for viewers seeking insights on narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, boundary setting, and emotional self defense. Stay informed, stay empowered, and keep your peace.
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My ex told me there should be no boundaries in a marriage. Trying to set any boundaries to him meant I didn't care and I was being abusive to him. I wasn't even allowed to have my own toothbrush. Got lectured how to use toilet paper and how to properly breathe.
YEAH! Began setting some reasonable boundaries around year 37 married, at one point I required we see a "Marriage Therapist."2 years into Therapy, 5 months after my mom passed (last parent) she announced "we're divorcing and it will be amiable" that was year 40, we had been seeing this Therapist for 2 years! I moved out 8 weeks later from a beautiful 1750 sq ft home located next to a pond on the golf course into a very nice 5th wheel next to a run down trailer park. Less than 90 days after moving out the Judge autographed the certificate of Divorce.
A close friend of mine, who has been a Lifecoach for over 38 years, and had known my X since she was around age 7, asked if he could offer some advice. Of course I said yes, then he said "Don't get caught up in image management." heard the words but only understood the meaning about a year later. Today, 3 1/2 years post divorce I officially have watched every DNA relative exit my life. I have learned a few dozen new words and phrases I could only hope no other would ever need to learn. eg. Smear campaign, enablers-AKA Flying Monkeys, Malignant, Covert, Covert / Vulnerable describes partially my X who could draw sympathy from an angry mama Grizzly, even a den of Badgers would yield to her tears. Well I left town on a BMW K 1600 GTL and didn't return for several months later. 18 months on my Therapy bike and logging over 42,000 miles in an attempt to move on, well it pissed my estranged family off. So I did what any reasonable divorcee would do, I bought 3 more bikes and just kept riding! 😆😎 🏍️🏍️🏍️🏍️
We may ponder why the narcissist always seems to be able to move onto fresh supply , but eventually who ever they are they will be in this same situation . New people will always eventually figure them out and leave when they see what lurks behind the mask !
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I just looked at him like he had three heads and walked away. He didn't push any farther.