I think that you didn’t get the whole story from men. Most of the men I know don’t suffer from the toxic masculinity you describe. While suck it up and be a man is prevalent, most men are concerned about being exposed if they are not sucking it up or on top of it all, just as concerned about if they are meeting the needs of their spouse/children/family/partner (never enough), also concerned that their spouse/partner is having the same good experience they are having during sex. Maybe you need two different categories besides gender.
I have tried showing feelings like that – and have literally seen the look of disgust and experienced the fall from grace as respect was instantly yanked away. You wanna talk about shame….nothing feels worse than that.
As a woman… Eye opening. I love EVERY single part of my man. 17 years and I'm just seeing his real self. It's worth every minute of work for him. I just need to STFU and listen when he speaks. Sorry to all men. ❤
During the 1980s, I had mental health issues. I used to hear all the time from feminist counsellors and the media, words like "male ego." (The word "toxic" wasn't thrown around so much then).
Meanwhile, women were offered counselling and assertiveness classes.
It took me a long time to see through the mirage… poor women victims bla bla…
But I did get past the lies… Now, I pray every day for men who have been disenfranchised by this toxic system.
I pray God will heal their hearts and draw them to Himself. That they will learn their true identity in Jesus Christ as they seek salvation. In Jesus' name 🙏
Because of the current trends that have taken over our society, gen z and gen alpha will die lonly. We will be surrounded by technology and fake egirls amd streamers. But we will die more alone than anyone.
I work 12 hours 6 days week getting bullied and mocked all the time in Australia only because I am from the Middle East. And my mental health destroyed the only person believes in me is my gf. And that’s why I haven’t ended my life I just learned to suck it up shut up and deal with it with it. I am also dealing with with spiritual awakening which makes it way harder but still keep going because one person still believes in me.
I can cry in front of my wife about my pain and she won’t say I’m here with you. She’ll look at me like I have two heads and won’t say a word. We’ve been married for 35 years. 🤔
We are expected to stay on that high horse, the moment we even stumble we are dragged down and beaten leaving us with zero chance of getting back up. Women are celebrated for being vulnerable.
I mean I’m vulnerable sometimes to my woman and it don’t make me weak at all makes me stronger like good I let that shi out now let’s get back to work bc if I don’t let it out it will stay in me and life will be hard
The fact that it takes a woman to do "incredible work" instead of just being a regular empathetic human being shows one of the main reasons there's a problem with gender relations lately
Nobody cares about men, we're supposed to be all knowing all seeing machines that only have the feelings women want us to have, because we're not supposed to be human in the eyes of women.
Possibly it has a great to do with what he shares , how, and when! When you postpone telling your teuth for decades then expects it to be an easy process!!! 😮
My heart goes out to that poor man in this story. His wife and daughters should be ashamed of themselves for the cruel way that they treat him. They expect him to be emotionally available to them and to respect their feelings, but they don't do the same for him. Opening up and making oneself vulnerable is not weakness. On the contrary, it takes inner strength and self-assurance to open up, put oneself at risk, make oneself vulnerable, reveal your needs, express your feelings, and reach out for help. To all women, including traditional women, I say this. Your job, as a wife/girlfriend, is to listen to your man, to provide a safe space for him to open up, to lift him up when he is down, respect his feelings, be attentive to his needs, and encourage him when he is feeling depressed (see Proverbs 31:11-12). When this poor man "falls from his horse", his wife and those daughters need to lift him up and restore him (Galatians 6:1-2). I say to all women that they need to treat men the same way that they want men to treat them; and not to place any demands or expectations on men that they don' want men to place on them (Luke 6:31). Good communication; mutual love, respect, and appreciation; loyalty, devotion, encouragement, and support are all important. But it has to work both ways if men and women are to thrive as coequal companions, and enjoy loving, fulfilling relationships.
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Men NEED to be able to be vulnerable to someone else who is willing to listen. You have to understand that this is important!
I think that you didn’t get the whole story from men. Most of the men I know don’t suffer from the toxic masculinity you describe. While suck it up and be a man is prevalent, most men are concerned about being exposed if they are not sucking it up or on top of it all, just as concerned about if they are meeting the needs of their spouse/children/family/partner (never enough), also concerned that their spouse/partner is having the same good experience they are having during sex. Maybe you need two different categories besides gender.
I have tried showing feelings like that – and have literally seen the look of disgust and experienced the fall from grace as respect was instantly yanked away. You wanna talk about shame….nothing feels worse than that.
As a woman… Eye opening. I love EVERY single part of my man. 17 years and I'm just seeing his real self. It's worth every minute of work for him. I just need to STFU and listen when he speaks. Sorry to all men. ❤
During the 1980s, I had mental health issues. I used to hear all the time from feminist counsellors and the media, words like "male ego." (The word "toxic" wasn't thrown around so much then).
Meanwhile, women were offered counselling and assertiveness classes.
It took me a long time to see through the mirage… poor women victims bla bla…
But I did get past the lies…
Now, I pray every day for men who have been disenfranchised by this toxic system.
I pray God will heal their hearts and draw them to Himself. That they will learn their true identity in Jesus Christ as they seek salvation. In Jesus' name 🙏
Because of the current trends that have taken over our society, gen z and gen alpha will die lonly. We will be surrounded by technology and fake egirls amd streamers. But we will die more alone than anyone.
True
My wife gets anxious and somewhat lost when I’m hurting or struggling with emotions. I end up feeling ashamed for reaching out and yes, resentful.
Happy men’s mental health month. Suicide is never the answer. Reach out brothers
I work 12 hours 6 days week getting bullied and mocked all the time in Australia only because I am from the Middle East. And my mental health destroyed the only person believes in me is my gf. And that’s why I haven’t ended my life I just learned to suck it up shut up and deal with it with it. I am also dealing with with spiritual awakening which makes it way harder but still keep going because one person still believes in me.
I feel that 💯
so true, the stigma is real
It's only to men they tell to suck it up or it's your problem cause it's your fault
I can cry in front of my wife about my pain and she won’t say I’m here with you. She’ll look at me like I have two heads and won’t say a word. We’ve been married for 35 years. 🤔
I love how she pretty much shot down modern Feminsim in one sentence. Modern feminism is basically blaming men for everything
We are expected to stay on that high horse, the moment we even stumble we are dragged down and beaten leaving us with zero chance of getting back up. Women are celebrated for being vulnerable.
Thanks for showing me see this perspective.
Real men true men = always refuse to lose to evil, weakness, and tears.
I mean I’m vulnerable sometimes to my woman and it don’t make me weak at all makes me stronger like good I let that shi out now let’s get back to work bc if I don’t let it out it will stay in me and life will be hard
Humans are a species of hairless apes that through higher iq have shaped a myriad of innovation but otherwise remain completely stupid.
I finally found a woman that appreciates me and the work I do. Only took 25 years!!.
So true
Yyaass. Think of our men too
Men need to be loved
Theyd rather see me die on top of my white horse, than watch me fall down.
This comment is so real it just broke me
It is one of your hardest days, when you realise that to the women in your life you're just a tool, a beast of burden.
The fact that it takes a woman to do "incredible work" instead of just being a regular empathetic human being shows one of the main reasons there's a problem with gender relations lately
Nobody cares about men, we're supposed to be all knowing all seeing machines that only have the feelings women want us to have, because we're not supposed to be human in the eyes of women.
my therapist showed me your Ted talks. Thank you for sharing your work. Mental Health matters
Possibly it has a great to do with what he shares , how, and when!
When you postpone telling your teuth for decades then expects it to be an easy process!!! 😮
My heart goes out to that poor man in this story. His wife and daughters should be ashamed of themselves for the cruel way that they treat him. They expect him to be emotionally available to them and to respect their feelings, but they don't do the same for him. Opening up and making oneself vulnerable is not weakness. On the contrary, it takes inner strength and self-assurance to open up, put oneself at risk, make oneself vulnerable, reveal your needs, express your feelings, and reach out for help. To all women, including traditional women, I say this. Your job, as a wife/girlfriend, is to listen to your man, to provide a safe space for him to open up, to lift him up when he is down, respect his feelings, be attentive to his needs, and encourage him when he is feeling depressed (see Proverbs 31:11-12). When this poor man "falls from his horse", his wife and those daughters need to lift him up and restore him (Galatians 6:1-2). I say to all women that they need to treat men the same way that they want men to treat them; and not to place any demands or expectations on men that they don' want men to place on them (Luke 6:31). Good communication; mutual love, respect, and appreciation; loyalty, devotion, encouragement, and support are all important. But it has to work both ways if men and women are to thrive as coequal companions, and enjoy loving, fulfilling relationships.