“I’m Fine” – Learning To Live With Depression | Jake Tyler | TEDxBrighton
Jake is 31 and lives with Depression. Last year Jake embarked on a journey to manage his mental health in a new way, through exercise, sharing and the great outdoors. Jake has now walked over 2000 miles around the UK, vlogging his experiences with thousands of online followers as he goes and attracting the attention of both the BBC and the Royal Family. In this talk, Jake shares his insights into living with depression and how connecting to and opening up to a wide online community has affected his relationship with depression.
Jake is 31 and lives with Depression. Last year Jake embarked on a journey to manage his mental health in a new way, through exercise, sharing and the great outdoors. Jake has now walked over 2000 miles around the UK, vlogging his experiences with thousands of online followers as he goes and attracting the attention of both the BBC and the Royal Family. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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Me do not even rember what it feel like to not feel like this
When he talks about the saturation being lowered, I’ve never related to something more in my life! So reassuring it’s not just me this happens to
i know what he means i cant sleep i cant eat
8 billion people and im alone.
Description was so good, they had to type it out twice
And my life ain't nothing but pressure, all pressure. This pressure is like a heaviness. And it’s always on top of me, this heaviness.
It’s always there since I’m a kid. Other people wake up in the morning, "A new day! Ah, up and at 'em!"
I wake up, the heaviness is waiting for me nice. Sometimes I even talk to it. I say, [adopts cheerful voice] "Hi, heaviness!"
And the heaviness looks back at me, [in an ominous growl] "Today you’re gonna get it good, you know. You’ll be drinking early today."
So many of us….
I suffered but I’m still not sure if it was depression since everyone I told it to just pushed it aside and told me I’m fine and now I feel insane thinking that I think I’m mentally ill when I’m not
I just saw this today and have listened to it 4 times. He describes it so well. I tried to commit suicide by taking 206 pills Xanax to be exact. I was so sad and angry that I was still here at that moment. I am glad I didn't die, but I do still suffer from this. Hiking is extremely good for me, like exercise. Lots of people don't understand, but lots do. I am glad I found this.
watching this now because nothing is going right and this is the most helpless i felt, nothing will ever change my thoughts of disappearing and nobody caring or minding, it's great
❤
𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒍𝒚 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒕𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒖𝒔𝒃𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒓𝒐𝒌𝒆 𝒖𝒑 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒎𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝑰'𝒎 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒅𝒂𝒚 𝒎𝒚 𝒓𝒐𝒔𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒎𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆❤
I can’t say I feel entirely depressed but been there a little but want to be better and looking for healthy options.
I thought to stop (my life) but i never could… just feeling nothing inside
Im feeling all of this like… well here we go again, another simple empty day
My panic attacks and depression start around 31 years old. Struggled for a while and met the love of my life at 36. Things were going great but my depression came back around a year into the relationship and I became a shell. She stay with me for a total of 3 and half years and now I’m 40 and she’s gone. I’m trying my hardest to not go into what caused the woman I wanted to marry leave. She won’t come back and I have to push forward to accept it’s the reason I lost her. Praying for better days
One of the worst feelings I can think of right now… is coming clean, finally talking about it – and then being told by others that I am getting better when I am actually not.
To straight up tell them "look, I am masking this, I have been doing so for years and I will likely snap the mask back up cuz habits" and still see them buy that very mask.
What do you answer when someone says they're glad you're on your way to recovery and that's not true? There are only wrong answers, is the problem. If you lie, you're slowly killing yourself, but if you're honest you are either hurting them in turn or they don't believe it, most often both – I've tried.
I dont know if i do have depression or something, I’ve searched up and done depression tests and like all of them say that I basically am just a bit less severe but uhhh.. I dont know if it does get worse, I dont know if I should get help because the thing is that what if I’m over exaggerating? what if it’s a placebo.? Besides no one’s gonna take me seriously. I also seem to have no one I actually could actually talk it out to.
"The love I heard in her voice" yeah I have no clue what that would be like coming from my mother.
Thank you so much for those words 🙁
3:54 !
But I can't just drop everything and go hiking.
5 years ago I made a post on this channel, I’m here today to say that I’ve become victorious over my bipolar depression. It’s still a journey, but I’ve grown so much and I pray others find this same clarity.
In the video, Jake talks about getting exercise and moving his body, which helped him get out of the depression. When I was going through a depression, antidepressants did not help me. What did help me was forcing myself out of bed, going on walks in nature, and socializing. When you're depressed, you do not have energy to do anything. All you do is sleep and become withdrawn from society. Which makes you fall into a deeper depression. One must force themselves to do the opposite of what depression does to your mind and body. Your mind and body are interconnected. Walking helped kick start my recovery. Exercise releases endorphins that help your mind feel happier. Watching my thoughts and changing my mindset to be more positive also helped me out of the depression. Fighting negative thoughts is a battle I still fight to this day, but it's a battle worth fighting. I get sad from time to time but no longer suffer from depression. You do not need to live with depression. You can overcome it. I have learned the signs of depression and learned how to stop the negative spiral. I have not been on antidepressants for over two decades. I posted a video on my channel about my own personal story with depression.
I don’t understand this video. Like I have a depression half of my life, but seeing more depressed people do not help me at all. And I cannot be outside that much time, because I work inside. Well I still do not know what to do.
Depression is like someone who's always around you. They are quiet when it's not that bad but when it gets really bad you can hear them and smell the cigarette they just lit.
Im 47 i want yo accept my bipolar depression of 35 years… I dont know happiness… But i want to accept my depression with all my heart
It's okay to not be okay. Depression is not a choice, and seeking help is a brave step towards healing. 🌱
H I need help
Depression is a luxury, it's like a personal assistant whose only job is to convince you, you are having the worst possible experience, just to have a discussion with itself, it exists in the mind, somewhere, it's not a room you go to, it's a snail, it does not take anything away, it just talks slowly as it goes by, the more attention you give it, the slower it crawls away, and the more it stays.
If you are not aware you are conversing with depression it can even stay talking to you.
I want freedom that’s it.
You know ure depressed when u can't even finish this video because you are just so burnt out and sad.
“It hugs you and tells you this is where you belong” wow.
I can't take it anymore. I'm broken.
I’m about to stop this because just the idea of this discussion scares me
That’s why I always said I will have kids when I will be happy because I’m no happy I don’t want My future wife or my kids to stress like me I’m dealing with so many problem and nobody know because the just see you happy one of the reason I stop to drinks anymore
All the bad traits I hate about myself could be changed at any time. My mood is governed by but one. It's a damn shame he doesn't listen to me because I want to love him but he thinks he isn't worthy of anyone's love. That's my experience with depression but I am not a victim…..I am the offender.
My depression is due to my choices. I just wish I’d finally make better choices but it hasn’t happened in my 53 years. Not feeling sorry for myself, just speaking the truth.
I will forever be thankful to Dr Ozuka for helping me get my life back. I lived with herpes virus for years until I came across Dr Ozuka on YouTube ❤
My main problem is I self isalate 2020 made it to were I have no choice I can't afford to go around groups of people.
I've struggled with depression since a child. I'm convinced I need a bigger meaning than myself to keep going because Im not enough. I don't have enough self value to live for myself.
I reached out to a hotline tonight. It had been a very long time. I just hadn’t been comfortable with the thoughts I’d been having. A lot of times it feels like it just doesn’t make sense to tell anyone because they to have their own problems worse than yours and they are working harder and managing. I am a burden with this. This is a whole mess. But just being able to tell someone, a stranger, the truth about what is happening, and to feel seen in that, is so powerful. I was able to think tonight without the horrible thoughts.
My dad left and ever since, i have been just dead, i was begging god to bring him back to my arms wanted to see Him and my mom happy, hugging each other and its only been a week and i already thought of committing suicide
And i still am depressed and i cant talk to my mom since she’ll just get mad abt talking abt it and get sad so i’ve been just been crying over and over again and i blame myself for losing my dad and i hate myself for it and i just want my dad back…
Ive just been crying my eyes out watching this. It feels like the fist time anyone understands.