Mental health / Self-Care Tips that helped ME!

Q- what if it's not a romantic relationship? My husband and i care take a woman in her late 50s, she uses meth, pills, etc. Extremely manipulative and entitled. She likes to constantly play victim and blame either me or my husband for her problems. Example im a combat veteran, byw im female and the subject of buying a firearm came up due do the current situation here in LA. She said, "you have anger outbursts and PTSD, etc, i don't feel safe with you being around one in MY HOUSE." I looked puzzled because it came out of no where, I let it get the best of me, and told her to stop belittling me and calling me an "angry, unpredictable person," also, she just wanted to "talk" =push buttons and get attention and a reaction, she said alot of other things but the point is, she started to tell my hubby that im a lying bitch and that im a pig fat and lazy etc..(she sits around all day, eats, does nothing, complains, lies to her drug counselor, parole officer etc.) 🙄. She manages to manipulate everyone around her into ferling sorry for her, i finally got back my military compensation and i have spent soooo much money on her, trying to make her happy. I realized that if she keeps myself and my husband wasting our, time, energy, and effort doing what she wants we will never be able to leave or gain stability. She constantly is very inappropriate towards my husband, it's so bad that both of us have to remove ourselves and go outside. She has no children, and constantly tries to give advice nobody asks for under the guise of concern, and how we should be parenting. When we first met her we thought, "oh this poor widow, ex drug addict, mentally ill person, who needs help, she seems so sad." Omg no, she is not any of those things! She uses her "mental illness " "drug addiction " and "her late boyfriends overdose" to gain sympathy. No more, i was doing everything for her, only thing i basically didn't do is wipe her ass. So, i get upset that she won't even close the door to do drugs, she has physically attacked me, made me bleed, kicked us out, crying she needed us so that we could take "care of her" she doesn't need a caretaker, she needs rehab, and a higher level of care. When I stopped letting her use me and stopped sharing personal information with her, she freaked out!!!! She asks very personal questions, and says that she just cares and wants to know us better, but it's so she csn use it later to hurt and exploit. It is insanity. What is really scary is that she gets really evil and starts crying and yelling and then asking my husband for my money while im sitting there! She said to my husband, "i don't know how you put up with that little bitch." My husband looked at me and basically gave me the look to stay silent because he knows im at my breaking point. I was feeling helpless, then a lightbulb went off, she is projecting everything onto mainly me, me and my hubby arent "allowed " any aline time or to spend any of our own money, because you know, we are selfish if we just want 5 mins alone to decompres, or even give eachother encouragement or to be affectionate. Sorry this was long, I pray for anyone else who is going through this. Any advice would be much appreciated, any insight, i must learn how to not get so upset. I will end up having a heart attack, im not kidding my stomach and chest constantly hurt and my health is deteriorating as well as my self esteem and my anxiety is through the roof. One more thing, I read the bible, i believe in Jesus, she claims that she does too and that im snooty and that she has read the bible 100 times and that, "faith without works is dead". It means to her that i should if im a believer prove my faith through picking up her problems and working them out for her etc…that got to me bad, no through being saved and converted true repentance comes, and from there as a result good fruit is produced (works) through God's grace and His will being done. I told her, that, I would like to maybe have a little bible study together so we can fellowship together, buttt nooooo, she doesn't need to and doesn't want to see me reading my bible. It is so painful, she remids me of my mother. Okay ill leave it here…so much confusion and pain…

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let go of perfectionism
changing outlook towards like
self parenting 8:38
handling stress
invest in yourself and give yourself time

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Also be aware of your boundaries. Even if you love the person and they’re toxic and abusive, you must leave this person. Keep on with your self care.

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