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5 Lies Depression Tells You – Depression Motivation, it gets better



5 Lies Depression Tells You – Depression Motivation, it gets better

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Depression is a liar because it warps your perception of reality. It twists your thoughts, making you believe things that aren’t true, even though they feel real. Here are 5 of the biggest lies depression tells—and the truth behind them: Depression makes it seem like the pain will last forever, like you’re stuck in a tunnel with no exit. And you start to believe that there’s no point in trying.
Depression distorts reality when it tells you that your problems aren’t “bad enough” or that you should handle them alone. That you should be ashamed for having feelings and you have to hide them.

00:00 Intro
00:50 1. The first Lie: “You’re never going to be happy again.” “Nothing will ever get better.”
03:15 #2 The Second Lie “You’re a burden.”
04:10 Lie # 3. “You don’t deserve help.”
04:41 4. “You’re weak for feeling this way.”
05:26 5. “No one cares about you.”

Check out the transcript below:

5 Lies Depression Tells You – Depression Motivation, it gets better

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In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life’s direction.
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  2. @rickiddings949 on

    I once thought I was past my depression, but I still wonder if I’m loved, even though my wife tells me she loves me. Lots of childhood trauma, 38 years in a job that was very stressful for an introvert. I’ve learned to compartmentalize things, but my counselor is trying to help me with this, but I still don’t want to “unstuff” it.

  4. @robertgordon7718 on

    God bless you, you are so awesome and thanks for the great videos. You’re helping a lot of people!!! I wish you and your family nothing but much success and health!!!! 🎉🎉👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

  7. @AnimationLover-w6c on

    Mam i am a bs student and i have been fighting from anxiety and your videos helped me in relaxing my mind. In my first sem i was absolutely fine but in my second sem i sarted to feel paper anxiety and in third semester i was anxious of something that i couldn't even sleep at night but now in fourth sem i am so confused because i think i have anxiety and maybe due to this I can't study because i can't memorize things whenever i try to study i feel like i don't have brain and everything i am reading is not going in my brain and i cannot remember any lecture in this sem but i used to remember even lectures in third semester but in this semester it is almost impossible for me to remember or recall thing in my mind i tried so many techniques writing while studying,and many more but none of them worked and also ik it is funny but i have a crush on a k actor and i kept dreaming even daydreaming about him so anxiety and thinking about him has occupied my mind so badly that I don't know what to do i m a good student but in this semester its getting tough for me to remember things i m scared if things keep going like these i would fail because my mids are coming in a week plz mam help me or suggest me some tips because i m worried about my performance in mids plz mam you videos really helped me in third sem but this sem idk what's going on whenever I try to memorize I feel a neck pain too

  11. @shyamalganguly3598 on

    Most of your therapeutic words are worth following for those who don't know they are depressed in a certain way or other!! A time was when I too was under the hidden negative pride actually sucking me for being with it and then when I began spoting it playing a furtive tole on my mind to drag me to go ahead with normal vigor and I gradually began regaining the necessary energy required to, first shrug it off little by little, second in the process of getting myself back to control my own actions for a definite thought of future in my mind although. I hadn't the confidence once I had in everyone around me except a very few people who played such a great role in changing the attitude every now and then and still I don't have the confidence to not have their presence working always on me even when I am asleep or not thinking anything at all but for their being existing in my farthest to nearest subconscious I could conceive of normally!! But when I'm consciously prevalent in my activities, I can still feel the same old drag inside although affecting in the weakest way and however weak they are it's not measurable enough not to feel tried in tons of energetic feelings and I put myself to a calming mode which may look lethargic outwardly but I think it's still needed to jump back to activities!! Now I have much more confident to people who I thought aren't adding much to my progress in just even a few weeks before and things are always improving to bid fair in the near future I think!! The blabber until now has been all about like selfishly myself, it's well being. and it's getting things right for this individual only, but in coming back upto here I realized how people fall in trap and become the victims of anxiety first and then get depressed to abnormality and then I feel an urge to do something to do the least I can to bring some sort of positivity to some people I feel have had a connection in a different birth and they too are going under the anxious state gotten very differently without their knowledge because their activities are noticeably giving me the same scares because I was through those phases in a very different way than theirs!! I'm really in a dilemma whether I should let it happen to be very egoist of myself or be just let it go from my mind to be selfish for my need of the hour!! I wouldn't be much perturbed if I won't be feeling their presence to be felt in whatever manner they affect my exiting in a negatively but in some other way positively too!! To my own judgement I'm not in clarity of not to have done the least I could for them and regret it in future!! What's your advice please let me know what would be best because I don't have a firm timeline for not getting out of sight of these uneasy and tentative thoughts!!

  13. @cherylhall1741 on

    I love this video!!!

    "You don't have to pretend to be ok, but you also don't have to be stuck in this place forever"
    "Seems like the pain is going to last forever"
    "Even if you've felt like this for a long time, it doesn't mean that you always will"
    "You don't have to believe that things are going to get better yet …"
    – the whole #2 was spot on. I have thought about it, but I couldn't do that to my family.
    "You should just snap out of it"
    "At least a flashlight" – love it!

    Almost everything you said resonated with me. I love your small steps attitude!

    Btw this is the 2nd time I watched and I'll probably keep watching to keep reminding me. Your other videos are just as good! "Vanilla"!!

    I watched and decided that my small step was to go sit outside. I listened to some music and played with my dogs. It was awesome and made me feel good enough to go in and do a few things (vanilla things, lol). And then I felt good about that! It was actually a decent day! Still a lot of pain (severe arthritis, constant headache), but at least I was happier which really helped dealing with the pain. It was a distraction.

    So thank you so much!!!!

    I just need to keep watching because since that day I haven't done that and I'm back to crying all day and being obsessed with my pain. Tomorrow is supposed to rain, but maybe I can sit on the couch and do the same. 😊

    Thank you again! Take care and have a great day! 🙂

  15. @maryboswell6089 on

    Thank you so much Emma!! I have suffered from Depression for years. I didn't realize that Depression lies to us this much.. Medication hasn't really helped that much. I like the 15 minute light therapy idea and the TMS idea. My Depression tells me lies like that my family and friends don't care of love me. I didn't realize that there are over 500 treatment options for Depression. This you-tube video gives me a lot of hope.

  16. @meghanson5472 on

    This video is a great check of mental health and helped me realize like holy crap, two months ago I was really deep in this! I found that everything you said was exactly what my brain was saying. One thing I was wondering is I’ve done the work and all the tools, and my brain used to be like eh those don’t work stop trying. What is something you could recommend for self talk when your brain say these things and you know you already have a tool box of rubber tools? Thank you, keep doing good work, your videos have kept living a life worth living!❤

  22. @babycakes8434 on

    I don't care what others think. I only care about that it doesn't make sense to keep going. Why bother, why push forward when you get so many days that just plain suck….

  23. @brookeoscarson2520 on

    I definitely fight these lies, but i have a slight difference. I truly believe in therapy and i do think its essential. The current issue i have is that i am struggling to shower so the advice the therapist gives me feels impossible. So now i feel like im just waisting her time and i do worry ill never be fixed. The shame and guilt that comes with this feels so heavy and im so tired. Im exhausted

  24. @olicart33 on

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against Suicidal, depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

  26. @sannajohanna5579 on

    I realized that I might have problems with thyroid. I am freezing daily, as it was winter inside the house, my hair falls and my nails are in a bad shame, my skin gets try. And I am an iou, netvous, I get irrirated in ananosecond if thigs do not go in my way…. I'll find out. But, it is terrible, when I've destroyed my jobs, my relations, my whole life because my thyroid is not functioning well, or other hormons! It is a real reason for depression.

    I suggest, that before telling ypurself that ypu are mentally ill, check your blood and hormons. Really: mindpower does not help everything. You are not mentally ill, when your hormonal balance is off! Good nutrition is needed! 😮

  27. @NOTHlNG on

    What if depression tells you that this is your real self and on the happy days you are only fooling yourself by ignoring, avoiding, suppressing the negativity that is actually real? Is that a lie too?

  31. @paulh9979 on

    4 months ago my fiance broke up with me. My depression went from bad to a darkness i didn't think was possible. I was so suicidal i dont know how i made it. Life from minute to minute was torture. But im here to tell anyone that is reading this . There is light at the end of the tunnel. Everything Emma is saying is true. Please hang on , you can do it . ❤

  35. @handyhacker11 on

    I've had very little bad things happen in my life. My life is great. What about this?

    (I know it can get better, nay amazing even. It's constantly getting better for me thanks to diet or just the episode resolvong)

  37. @TVegRunAnims on

    I am SOOOOOOO tired, SOOO exhausted of " hiding" my depression ( etc), NOT always possible. ( work i try sooo hard to. But!.
    I CANT keep doing this. I CANT!!
    & I KNOW I AM a burden. THAT IS obvous
    When u try contacting people & even asking 4 a serous talk & they never return msgs!. Hello? When people talk behind ur back & u PRETEND u didnt hear & there actions. . * like @ work).. .No point in continuing all this. All be better without me

  41. @SomniArk_Sleep_Hypnosis on

    Your content is a lifeline some days 🙏 For peaceful sleep support, I’ve been quietly building a channel called SomniArk — it’s full of guided hypnosis to ease anxiety and promote rest 🌙🛌

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