I Cannot learn who I am in a short amount of time. Heck, idk who I am after 44 years. How is it so easy for others to pick up who I am? I’m 💭 thinking Lack off Self Awareness
It took me ages to find the right therapist. I spent two years with one who took me nowhere. My new therapist has done more for me in a few months than she ever did. Sometimes it works both ways. But overall it was not a quick fix. Finding good therapists is hard.
I wasted decades with the wrong therapists, afraid to leave, insurance issues, and just plain lack of qualified help. I finally found the one in 2015, still working towards the goals. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other to continue to grow and think differently, it takes time. Great short Dr. Fox, and Happy Easter.
Absolutely, particularly for men who are expected to be protectors and often lose their "lvalue" as a worthy partner and are sadly misunderstood when in crisis, vs women how are genetically predisposed to being more emotionally driven based on evolution as the birth-giving providers of our two genders. That said, any help is better than none, and the primary concern is to build access to a more informed and available mental health help service. If someone with BPD traits can't even get a diagnosis in countless attempts over 6 years, there is something very wrong.
I think more important than this abstract idea of recovery is progress. If you can't acknowledge progress you can't recover. So take the focus off of overcoming it once and for all and give yourself all the gold stars you need. The more I focus on "will I ever fix myself?" The less I focus on "What did I do better today than yesterday?"
Too many times I jumped back in and was washed over and sunk again – this time I am on Gods healing time – its my healing, my journey so I shut “Them” off and dove within to find ME!!!🥰
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I Cannot learn who I am in a short amount of time. Heck, idk who I am after 44 years. How is it so easy for others to pick up who I am? I’m 💭 thinking Lack off Self Awareness
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It took me ages to find the right therapist. I spent two years with one who took me nowhere. My new therapist has done more for me in a few months than she ever did. Sometimes it works both ways. But overall it was not a quick fix. Finding good therapists is hard.
I wasted decades with the wrong therapists, afraid to leave, insurance issues, and just plain lack of qualified help. I finally found the one in 2015, still working towards the goals. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other to continue to grow and think differently, it takes time. Great short Dr. Fox, and Happy Easter.
Absolutely, particularly for men who are expected to be protectors and often lose their "lvalue" as a worthy partner and are sadly misunderstood when in crisis, vs women how are genetically predisposed to being more emotionally driven based on evolution as the birth-giving providers of our two genders. That said, any help is better than none, and the primary concern is to build access to a more informed and available mental health help service. If someone with BPD traits can't even get a diagnosis in countless attempts over 6 years, there is something very wrong.
I think more important than this abstract idea of recovery is progress.
If you can't acknowledge progress you can't recover.
So take the focus off of overcoming it once and for all and give yourself all the gold stars you need.
The more I focus on "will I ever fix myself?" The less I focus on "What did I do better today than yesterday?"
Too many times I jumped back in and was washed over and sunk again – this time I am on Gods healing time – its my healing, my journey so I shut “Them” off and dove within to find ME!!!🥰
This is a timely message for me. Thanks Dr. Fox.