It is the mess… My neighbour, her first sentences…. and it is very sharply reminding of my ex… The first sentences… And when I'm reminded of that I feel unquenched hatred to my ex, and to myself that i let myself to be dragged to the bottom and having no courage nor strength to say "no" in final discard.. I was voiceless, hospitalised in closed unit of mental institution, and discard was terrible.. One of the worse memories in my life.. Luckily, I was already on the mend and hospitalised myself a month before…. I have to go to my diary and read what I wrote then… Then I was between the anvil (my mom) and the hammer (my ex).. I have to get my life back whatever age I am now… Thank you, Jerry
Thank you, Mr Jerry Wise Right on time, and I'm in right place and with "right people"… Futile battle with somebody's madness… Been there.. done that.. let's do it again…
I’m in a major crisis. Do you ever do consults…even brief ones during these unexpected times? I’ve exhausted all of my contacts, resources nearby with authorities and the mental healthcare system…and have been learning the best content on this topic from you as well as others six months ago. I have financial freedom, but I’m disabled, and my abuser is really meshed in my home. His they child who is twenty one almost lives upstairs. I have to give them notice if I want them or just him evicted. I don’t know any lawyers, and have zero friends or family to be a sounding board. It’s like I’ve before in quicksand, suspended in a void. I want people. Earth. Hope. I would love if we could break up, and we did last year, and the authorities are so useless, neglectful and ignorant in my Small Washington State town of Brier, that I’m fighting for my life. I’m not suicidal. I’m bipolar, with ChildhoodPTSD, ocd, adhd, gad and chronic cannabis dependence caused by my ignorant choice years ago when I thought it was the best for PTSD, which at the time I thought was from my bullying, stalker of 13 yrs and rapes. I used it medicinally. I’m trying to quit now. It’s a very sinister physical addiction. When I started, nobody knew it had these issues. I’m smart. A survivor. Loving. Have goals, dreams, and want a legacy based on helping anybody not make my mistakes or “ sins”. I have missed the mark…and I’m technically an atheist due to my abusers in my family of origin being abusive Christian’s, and the new-age cult was my thing since I was young. The magical thinking involved is really bad for somebody like me, who once every so often gets manic and heads into psychosis. Since my lack of escaping my prison before my age of 53 means I never was allowed my own family ,even so, I deserve one person who cares about me or gives a damn before I leave this mortal coil. I deserve happiness, contentment and peace…as do we all. Unfortunately, stigma and shunning are rampant, pathological and at epidemic proportions. Do let me know the soonest you may have a free minute or an appointment. I’m happy to pay. I’ll do the courses…I’m just currently in the sh*t, as they say in war…and Tropic Thunder. 😳😝😂🤓🥹🙏 Thanks for reading my Ted Talk. 🥲
So important to have these boundaries dealing with some of the characters you run across in life – because the head games some people project (venting their baggage at whoever is next in their field of view), wow and seemingly over decades of their life and not changing as they get older, and they are doing it naturally without comprehending how weird they get. Boundaries so important, it simplifies a lot for your own mental health and not getting caught in their web.
I have an inner anger. I am angry at my passive-aggressive narcissistic mother. I tell myself, "Let it go." It is in the past. This is not me. Do not project. Lift weights or swim if you want to release physically. What is it that I am kept from doing? Go do it. You are a free adult. You are not a child. Be free.
Last Sunday my mother bp dropped in church which required care ( a doctor in churchh) and me breaking down after she was okay. I had to walk away to the girls room quickly. I know she saw my reaction. Since, she sits close to me when I visit and talks incessantly complaining or explaining. I slipped by showing my vulnerability, both parents in poor health. Neither happy ofcourse and my brother leaving for a vacation in Europe for the rest of Summer. I am self loathing that I can't handle this.
Thank you for this YT short, Mr. Wise. You are such a learned man. You often give me the language needed to solidify actions in my mind. I was well aware of the need for behavioral boundaries and understand their purpose is to protect me.
Now, being conscious of inner boundaries, such as detachment, will certainly help me not become mentally and emotionally caught up in the pettiness and slights of others. Especially, in the workplace. This must be an effective tool to guarding one’s heart.
Yes. In ACE and ACoA we never learned this skill or concept at all. In fact – we learned the complete opposite: to fix angry people and to feel responsible for other people having issues, like it was our fault and our duty to calm them down in any way or else..
I’m getting better with establishing, maintaining, and adjusting them as needed. (boundaries)
It’s also easier for me to respect other people’s boundaries now that mine are so important to me. I can let go and walk away a little easier without questions or assumptions, and that has done wonders for my anxiety and stress levels.
In my opinion, boundaries with certain people are one of life’s essentials, especially for an introverted empath. They have helped me maintain peace in my life, and I guard my peace like my life depends on it—because it does.
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It is the mess… My neighbour, her first sentences…. and it is very sharply reminding of my ex… The first sentences… And when I'm reminded of that I feel unquenched hatred to my ex, and to myself that i let myself to be dragged to the bottom and having no courage nor strength to say "no" in final discard.. I was voiceless, hospitalised in closed unit of mental institution, and discard was terrible.. One of the worse memories in my life.. Luckily, I was already on the mend and hospitalised myself a month before…. I have to go to my diary and read what I wrote then… Then I was between the anvil (my mom) and the hammer (my ex).. I have to get my life back whatever age I am now…
Thank you, Jerry
Thank you Mr. Wise
Thank you. The whole video, pls
Thank you, Mr Jerry Wise
Right on time, and I'm in right place and with "right people"…
Futile battle with somebody's madness… Been there.. done that.. let's do it again…
I’m in a major crisis. Do you ever do consults…even brief ones during these unexpected times? I’ve exhausted all of my contacts, resources nearby with authorities and the mental healthcare system…and have been learning the best content on this topic from you as well as others six months ago. I have financial freedom, but I’m disabled, and my abuser is really meshed in my home. His they child who is twenty one almost lives upstairs. I have to give them notice if I want them or just him evicted. I don’t know any lawyers, and have zero friends or family to be a sounding board. It’s like I’ve before in quicksand, suspended in a void. I want people. Earth. Hope.
I would love if we could break up, and we did last year, and the authorities are so useless, neglectful and ignorant in my Small Washington State town of Brier, that I’m fighting for my life. I’m not suicidal. I’m bipolar, with ChildhoodPTSD, ocd, adhd, gad and chronic cannabis dependence caused by my ignorant choice years ago when I thought it was the best for PTSD, which at the time I thought was from my bullying, stalker of 13 yrs and rapes. I used it medicinally. I’m trying to quit now. It’s a very sinister physical addiction. When I started, nobody knew it had these issues.
I’m smart. A survivor. Loving. Have goals, dreams, and want a legacy based on helping anybody not make my mistakes or “ sins”. I have missed the mark…and I’m technically an atheist due to my abusers in my family of origin being abusive Christian’s, and the new-age cult was my thing since I was young. The magical thinking involved is really bad for somebody like me, who once every so often gets manic and heads into psychosis. Since my lack of escaping my prison before my age of 53 means I never was allowed my own family ,even so, I deserve one person who cares about me or gives a damn before I leave this mortal coil.
I deserve happiness, contentment and peace…as do we all.
Unfortunately, stigma and shunning are rampant, pathological and at epidemic proportions.
Do let me know the soonest you may have a free minute or an appointment. I’m happy to pay. I’ll do the courses…I’m just currently in the sh*t, as they say in war…and Tropic Thunder. 😳😝😂🤓🥹🙏
Thanks for reading my Ted Talk. 🥲
So important to have these boundaries dealing with some of the characters you run across in life – because the head games some people project (venting their baggage at whoever is next in their field of view), wow and seemingly over decades of their life and not changing as they get older, and they are doing it naturally without comprehending how weird they get. Boundaries so important, it simplifies a lot for your own mental health and not getting caught in their web.
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It's adult peer pressure essentially. 🙏✌️
You are doing so much good with these videos, God bless you.
Thank you for this video with this discription. Very understandable for me.
I have an inner anger. I am angry at my passive-aggressive narcissistic mother. I tell myself, "Let it go." It is in the past. This is not me. Do not project. Lift weights or swim if you want to release physically. What is it that I am kept from doing? Go do it. You are a free adult. You are not a child. Be free.
Last Sunday my mother bp dropped in church which required care ( a doctor in churchh) and me breaking down after she was okay.
I had to walk away to the girls room quickly. I know she saw my reaction.
Since, she sits close to me when I visit and talks incessantly complaining or explaining.
I slipped by showing my vulnerability, both parents in poor health. Neither happy ofcourse and my brother leaving for a vacation in Europe for the rest of Summer.
I am self loathing that I can't handle this.
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much!
Thank you for this YT short, Mr. Wise. You are such a learned man. You often give me the language needed to solidify actions in my mind. I was well aware of the need for behavioral boundaries and understand their purpose is to protect me.
Now, being conscious of inner boundaries, such as detachment, will certainly help me not become mentally and emotionally caught up in the pettiness and slights of others. Especially, in the workplace. This must be an effective tool to guarding one’s heart.
Thank you!!
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GOOD ! Thank You!
Yes. In ACE and ACoA we never learned this skill or concept at all. In fact – we learned the complete opposite: to fix angry people and to feel responsible for other people having issues, like it was our fault and our duty to calm them down in any way or else..
I’m getting better with establishing, maintaining, and adjusting them as needed. (boundaries)
It’s also easier for me to respect other people’s boundaries now that mine are so important to me. I can let go and walk away a little easier without questions or assumptions, and that has done wonders for my anxiety and stress levels.
In my opinion, boundaries with certain people are one of life’s essentials, especially for an introverted empath. They have helped me maintain peace in my life, and I guard my peace like my life depends on it—because it does.