What Makes A Therapist Bad?

I think another difference is that a good therapist will gently ask challenging questions over time that push the person to be their best self. A bad therapist will just empathize and make you feel heard, but never help you get out of the place you are in.

My therapist knows how to ask questions that really force me to think or confront a pattern or behavior and directs me to knowledge about myself i hadnt realized but also the best approach to slow my life down and cope with the uncontrollable. It's tough work some days but I feel like ive grown so much in my mental health as a result.

A good therapist actually gives feedback. They don't sit there and just listen and nod.

A bad therapist . . . fires you as a client b/c you missed three appointments over eight-ish weeks. Nevermind the fact that you needed therapy because have severe undiagnosed ADHD. (Don’t ask me how I know…🤪 It’s severely painful and demoralizing when the person you are looking to for support as your life is falling apart tells you they can no longer help you because your life is falling apart.)

This is exactly what the last therapist did to me, she would listen but she won't understand, she kept pushing me to do things that made me super uncomfortable at the time bc she wanted me to change quickly, and if i said i dont think im capable of doing the said thing right at the moment she kept comparing me to her sister and herself that they did it so i could too and im like wtf, when i asked about when to schedule our last appointment she ghosted me and then came back like two weeks later saying she was out of town and asked me when am i free for our last appointment and im like fuck this shit i dont need it anymore

Bad therapists believe their patients. The whole reason a person goes to a therapist is to deal with their emotions. Our emotions color the way we perceive facts. Thus, when a therapist give advice based on what their patient tells them, they are giving faulty advice, because the facts they were told have been distorted.

A good therapist will, instead, help their patients see the facts from a different perspective. Only then should they even consider giving advice, and they should still do so cautiously.

I've had a bit of experience with a therapist and the thing I found cool is that the session just feels like she's asking questions trying to understand the issue deeper and then giving suggestions. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that it just feels like a good conversation which, I guess, is a sign she's good at her job.

The bad therapist is the one who brings up a simple and nonsense solution to a complicated problem.
Depression can not be solved by having s3x or with comments like "be happy you are alive/ have a house/ have a family."

Sometimes, being a lawyer also follows that line of thought

i had a therapist laugh at me when i said what i wanted for the future.

When they charge your insurance and credit card for 2 visits when you miss one to a health complication… (Fired!)

I had one therapist who broke her arm in a car accident and needed time off for surgery. She told me that she’d find me someone knew but never did.

A few years later, I went back to the same practice under a different therapist and the new therapist told me that she had found my file stuffed in the back with a sticky note on the front that said “Find New Therapist.” Said folder and note was covered with dust.

My case manager spent the entire session complaining about her UTI infection and pain.
I mean… I get it but I’m not in that kind of a relationship with you.
And I’ve met other support workers who would complain about their boyfriend, and then this older lady tried to coerce me into renting a bedroom in her house! What? Why? Am I too nice and don’t say anything in the moment. I didn’t even tell their manager, someone else did.
But those workers don’t get paid enough, and I guess they have issues too, but why talk to your client like they are your peer?

funny fantasy. i am from germany. in my country a therapists does not check what the patient needs. the therapists dictates what the patient has to do and the therapist "needs to figure out a strategy to deal with it" or figure the problem out by themself. if the patient visit the therapist because they can not, they are screwed. they have to learn it, but do not know how. in my country if you do not succeed it is all about willpower. all about what you personaly make out of a bad situation. it idea of not being able and needing help no no no . the therapist is not here to solve your problems for you. you have to do that on your own

One time, a therapist I was seeing heard I was afraid my wife didn't like me much so he opened her stuff on the PC and looked through her notes to see what she had said about me. My wife and i were very mad about that and dude did get fired.

Change the things in your life that are indeed negative and changeable. Make God the center of your life. Look at your children and see how happy they are with the simple things and try to do the same. And for the love of all holy stay off social media. Therapists seem like chiropractors to me. They want you to come back endlessly for no real results.

I think the best trait of a therapist is patience. Perhaps, knowing when to be patient and when intervention is needed. This comes from listening and observing but letting the client grow at their own pace… assuming they aren’t a danger to themselves or others.

How bad is this on a 1 to 10 ? When I made an outlandish claim one that most people would consider delussional ?
I produced AUDIO evidence of a crime being committed by a law enforcement officer/offical that they REFUSED to even listen to and wanted to label me as "needing help "

this is interesting becasue in my court ordered therapy, the therapist had one program that he applied to everyone in the group as a one-size-fits-all