8 Toxic Things Parents Say To their Children #parenthood #childhood #trauma
There are certain toxic behaviors that your parents may have exhibited, which can still affect you as an adult and potentially lead to trauma. Let’s take a look at this video to see if you can relate to any moments from your childhood. Watch the full video to understand how these memories can impact you and learn effective coping strategies.
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Your parents were also new to parenting when they raised you, so they may not have been aware of certain behaviors that could impact you. Don't worry! Check out the full video linked below to learn how we can understand and cope with these experiences.
While i relate to all these, there's one incidence id share, i remember how my mother was always on about me being i think a bit overweight and how some clothes wont look good on me(comparing me to a friend who was anemic and i think was also a bit anorexic), I believed her and always felt conscious of my wt, when I look back now i was such a beautiful kid, i wasnt even overweight and i really looked pretty but I grew up thinking otherwise and now ive hormonal issues and not optimal bmi, I feel drained but wish to be healthy.
This might be a bit of a dramatic reaction, BUT I AM
SO
GODDAMN
SICK
OF THESE VIDEOS STATING OBVIOUS ABUSIVE BEHAVIORS
Telling a child they're stupid/useless, degrading appearance, constant comparisons
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE talk about the subtler abusive words and actions:
– Repeatedly calling a child ungrateful, or even heavily implying it without ever actually saying the word "ungrateful," for simply wanting something (I don't mean throwing a fit over every single time they're told "no," but being called ungrateful for attempting to ask for something out of the routine, like trying a new activity such as learning an instrument or starting a sport and immediately stating that it would just be a waste of money if it doesn’t stick; people should be allowed to try things and discover they don't like something)
– Blaming the child for and complaining about things out of their control like the foods they like or their interests or their ability to perform certain tasks (especially when the child is neurodivergent)
– Breaking toys (This one's more on the obvious end, but I don't believe it's ever been mentioned in one of these videos)
– Passive aggressive generalizations like grouping all the children when the parent is really just frustrated with one but is taking it out on all of them
Example; "none of you kids ever help" when one child fails to do a chore
– Repetitive comments about a child's lack of friends; this makes the child feel like them not being liked by their classmates (who they had no choice or power in selecting) is their fault and the more they aren't liked/included, the more they feel that something about them is broken
– A lack of integrity and accountability
When a parent doesn't admit to being wrong or apologize, the child will start to think that only they make mistakes and can again lead to the child thinking they are somehow broken for seeming to be the odd one out
I felt the same way. Little things that adults get frustrated about, are heavy for a child to take in.
We never should have lived in a world with internet. In reality, the only reality children have, is the small little bubble world of a home and the parents they live with.
When children cry, a lot of the time we blow it off, but to their whole world, they really do feel that pain, no matter the matter the maturity or age.
Generally the way to be a good parent, to is to love your kid more than seeing it as work.
And now, Amazon Web Services went down.
Man…i got like 7 out 8
I remember it several years ago when I stumbled upon this channel.
My parents were… a disaster. Worst thing — I didn't even know that those things they've done and said were wrong. This channel taught me what self-love is and how a toxic family can ruin a child.
It's been 4 years, and now I'm free of it and still am on my healing path. Thank you Psych2Go, I'll never forget you 🩵
Hey, Psych2go. İ'm finally getting professional help about my sh issues. But my therapist told me that my mother never mentioned it. She just said my mother only mentioned how İ can't express my feelings. Help seemed like a good idea at first, but now İ doubt after İ heard those… But your videos helped me to get bravery for wanting help! Thank you all<33
But how do I fix myself after
The promises one really pisses me off still to this day
No 4 is just so relatable on another level
What self-esteem GNG 💔
Watching this just makes me sad. 😢
I was adopted at age 14 into a family that love bombed me into extreme abuse. As a result, I practically make it a point to give my child all my love and zero abuse. She loves me dearly and I adore her and she knows it. She's a lovely kiddo.
What if you heard almost all of these?
Pov : William Afton (From FNaF) things he do to Micheal Afton :
I want to send this to my mom but I can't 💔
i deal w all of ts especially the abandonment one, my mum would leave me in the middle of nowhere and leave me there for two hours max then come get me or lock me out the house at night in the freezing cold when i made a small mistake, recently she’s been kicking me out the house and getting the whole family involved to let me stay, so now they’re all agreed to send me to a different country for a year
Holy Shit my parents did all of these!!! They are not bad people but awful parents. Oh man the thing is I don't have anybody else to reach outto, so I just stay with myself 😢
Also a thing for others, you cannot choose who are your parents, but YOU can Choose who's child you are!
Speaking of Verbal abuse, My mom and dad were Fighting And My dad Called me a "Shit" Then my mom said "You're just a Bastard And you'll forever stay like that".
Oh my gosh… the last three hit hard. When I say I had a mentally abusive father, I mean the last 3. He always raised his voice when the slightest thing went wrong, calling us dumb and stupid, and was such a hippo-crate every time he said “stop f***ing swearing!” I never swore in front of him, but my brothers did, who are both autistic so of course they copied what my dad always did; cussing. And he always threatened to leave us on the streets. One time he threw me out the house because I was crying since he was yelling at me, and I stood at the porch crying, and I almost started walking away to ask neighbors to let me in, but my dad finally brought me back in the house. Another time he took my brother in the car and drove away, and didn’t come back 30 minutes later. My brother came back too, he wasn’t harmed, but even now, when my dad isn’t around anymore, my brother won’t tell us what happened. And he always told us lies about planing to reward us, but since we acted bad that day he didn’t give us anything. But even when we were good he didn’t reward us. There were also other things he did that are part of this video, but those are the major ones
Parent? You meant appearance captions