The Truth About Daycare Nobody Talks About

I hated daycare. I cried every day I was there. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Daycares were terrible for me. The first 6 or 7 years of our lives arethe formative years. The foundation years. Mine were filled with stress.

As a mother and a preschool teacher, I can state this clearly that I spent the first two years of my first born’s life with her and then I went back to work, daycare teachers helped her gain social skills while I worked. She is the smartest kid, I don’t remember myself being so self aware even at an older age. My mother kept me to her side and that didn’t help, I am expecting my second child now, and guess what?! I am planning to do the same thing again, enrolling my baby in a daycare and help him know and understand human interaction and most importantly gain emotional intelligence.

This was not our experience with daycare. My boys went to daycare in Oregon at 9 and 6 months old. They are 5 and 3 years old now. All teachers have been super loving and patient, especially the infant's room teacher. I see her always holding babies. Sometimes two at a time. And they are not crying all the time. Vet your daycares carefully ❤

The quality of humans we are raising today😢

I agree and disagree with this video. Babies do need their moms, but kind and nurturing daycare workers can be like aunties to love and care for kids when necessary. Not all caretakers are the same, so that a risk. But moms don't always have a choice to stay with their kids.

I would say she is correct about baby’s needs but incorrect on her application about their needs. If you have a good daycare, whether this be grandparents, a home daycare, a church daycare, company daycare, or a nanny, as long as your baby is attended to and isn’t left unattended crying all day and they feel safe and cared for, able to be consoled etc., then that stress she talks about isn’t going to happen. But if they are with someone, even their own mother, who doesn’t respond to their needs, then yeah.

Why these vids make me feel like ive done it all wrong wtf ! Why does the system do this to us ive never thought it was right but force back out to work when my baby was far too young to be withoit me. I always blame myself and look to my past as a child it all makes sense I wish i could turn back time and do it all over the right way. Im so disgusted. My son is now 17 years old. Our bond could have been a lot better i love my son with my whole heart but a lot of the negative emotions could have been avoided 😢

That is not universal for a lot of daycare. Most women have no choice, especially in the USA. What is the alternative for the majority. We are very lucky in general in the uk that we can take the first year off, for which I am very grateful i had with both my children. I do not like thesw videos at all. You've got this mama's and papa's ❤

The best advice you can follow as a parent is no advice from so called experts or psychologists or whatever they’ve been researching on or have been studying. It’s all theory which doesn’t apply to every situation. Assess your own life and see what works best for you.

I stayed home the first three years when i had my first son. He’s very sociable but plays very rough with other kids. That’s how i was a kid. He’s hyperactive and never went to daycare.

My second son started daycare at 3 months and only goes twice a week. It’s a small private day care with only 2-3 babies. The rest are above a year old. He loves his teachers and they have the time to hold him.
He is clingy and will cry both at home and at daycare because he’s always carried.

Every child is different. If daycare doesn’t work for you fine, work less and be home more. If it works for you also fine but don’t demonize them all. Some of these daycare actually care about kids.

I came to the comments to see mothers complaining cause they can't handle the fact that, even if you have to leave you kid on day care to work, it does not make it good for the child. Life is not always perfect and sometimes we have to choose the "not so good" options, but it's best to be realistic and take the consequences, them to pretend that "oh no, its all good. My kid is fine on day care".

Not everyone has the privilege of staying home with their kids. I can’t believe staying home to raise your child has now morphed into something of privilege. While yes it’s good we have these conversations let’s talk about what policies, bills, laws are we working towards to be make it possible to stay at home. I know many women who get 4 weeks of unpaid FMLA, and can’t afford to stay home not even 4 weeks. ( this is more applicable if you live in the US).

What a dumb thing to post when there is no other options in this wonderful world we all currently live in

If u plan to have a baby then u take care of your baby / not daycares

Yep!

Either you pay the mother's to stay home in the united states or they have to go to work to afford everything that the baby needs. Its tough because mother also get fired after having a baby.