May is Mental Health Awareness Month. It is the Year of Our Lord 2026, and thankfully the uncomfortability that some Black folks have historically had around talking to someone about the challenges that arise in life is lifting. There was a time when men and women from our community would feel some kind of way about seeking help for mental health issues, but now it has been normalized to talk to someone if you struggle with anxiety, depression, or if you just need to work through some things in your life.
This is a great thing. But there is one more thing that Black folks need to understand. Let me say it plainly. Talking to your pastor is not the same as speaking with a mental health professional.
Look, no shade to the millions of men, women, and nonbinary folks who toil to provide support for people in their congregations. And I say this as a man who has spent the last 20 years working in ministry. But talking to your pastor is not the same as speaking with a licensed, trained professional. Let me give you three quick reasons why.
Just because someone can preach does not mean they can help you
Your pastor may be a gifted orator. They may be able to give you a compelling word from the pulpit that will inspire and equip you to fight on a little bit longer.
But here is the thing. Just because they can shout on Sunday does not mean that they can listen on Monday.
A mental health professional is trained to listen and give sound advice. Your pastor may be called and charismatic, but that does not mean they are the right person to talk to if you need more than just a surface-level listening ear.
Training
To be sure, there are pastors who are trained to be mental health professionals. If your pastor has gone to school and earned a degree in pastoral counseling and care, you are talking to a mental health professional.
But many have not. And that matters. Training is not just about knowledge. It is about method, ethics, boundaries, and knowing how to help without causing harm. Which leads us to the final and most crucial point.
Let’s Talk About Boundaries
Your pastor cares about you. That is real. And no one is questioning that. But that care can sometimes blur lines that should stay clear.
A mental health professional is trained to hold boundaries. They know how to create a space that is about you, your healing, and your growth without mixing in church politics, personal relationships, or expectations. A licensed professional creates a space where you do not have to perform spiritually. You can just be.
And for many of us, that kind of space is not just helpful. It is necessary.
Pastors are important. They are loving. And they are charismatic. But unless they are trained, they are not who you should go to if you need mental health counseling.
You do not have to choose between your faith and your healing. Choose both.
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