Most parents think this is bad behavior
Most parents have had that moment where they’re staring at their child thinking, “What is going on right now?”
The meltdown over the wrong cup.
The tears that seem to come out of nowhere.
The attitude, frustration, or shutdown that doesn’t make sense in the moment.
It’s easy to focus on the behavior because that’s the part we can see. What’s harder is figuring out what’s happening underneath it.
That’s what I found so interesting about @birchandlight.
Their LightMap tool helps parents track emotions, behaviors, routines, and experiences over time so patterns start becoming visible. Sometimes the rough days aren’t random. Sometimes there are triggers, stressors, transitions, sleep changes, or emotional needs hiding beneath the surface that we simply haven’t connected yet.
As a mom, I know how frustrating it can feel when you’re trying your best but still don’t fully understand why something keeps happening.
What I love about this approach is that it isn’t about labeling kids as difficult or trying to “fix” them. It’s about helping parents better understand what their child may be experiencing so they can respond with more clarity, connection, and confidence.
The more I learn about emotional wellness in children, the more convinced I am that understanding the pattern is often where the real breakthrough begins.
@birchandlight
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4 Comments
No, it’s bad behavior
Both are true. They need to learn how to communicate in a safer manner, but it is a form of communication. She probably feels threatened or defensive in some way
This is SUCH an inappropriate thing to post. My mother filmed me like this when I had panic attacks and threatened to send it to people we knew and it was the most powerless I ever felt. I don't take pictures because I can't get over that feeling.
That’s past bad behavior, it’s now clinical behavior.