Actually refreshingly encouraging. As someone who has dealt with unfounded depression for many years of my life, I often felt like I was a complete failure, worthless, useless, etc. In reality (and in non-depressive times I could see that) I was a loving wife with a loving husband, successful and hard working, raising and homeschooling my children, and a valuable part of my friend groups and local church family, etc. My emotions were not matching my reality.
That can’t be totally true. My adult Son has everything down on paper (house girlfriend car good job friends family)but still is depressed. He worries us all sick the way he goes on. We love him dearly but no matter what we do for him or what professional help we get him he still doesn’t like life. We are heartbroken. 💔
Provided your opinion hangs on the external actions not the internal. The internal says I am successful in my own right no matter what others say about the external actions they consider successful. Success is I. The eyes of the beholder. Clever about the match and mismatch comment though.
I'm exactly as he described at the beginning of this. But I've lost all interest and care in the world about it. What's it to anyone if I don't care or want to bother with anyone other than myself? I already stopped caring about what anyone thinks of me.
It simply has no bearing on the real truth which is the only thing I'm interested in.
"True depression is a mismatch between your actual competence and your self-perceived competence." Mind blown. Thank you doctor Peterson for the sentence I've needed to hear my entire life.
I have no mate, i have hardly any friends, i don't have a job. Yet i am full of joy and feel very happy 😅 i do write code and stuff in my time that i enjoy doing
Yeh that’s my life. And I’m stuck for another 2 years… Then I’ll be rebuilding a career in my late 30’s
Left a lot of things too late, don’t think I’ll ever fully recover again but I’m just a cog in the machine so at the end of the day it won’t matter much
I truly believe that those of us who are chronically depressed for whatever reason with no insurance and with a high I.Q., go under the rug and we just stop.
While I understand capitalism, what I will never accept from the medical community, is while you want to "help" people, you turn them down with no financial interest.
Don't agree, Jordan. Do not ever compare myself with anyone. Hyper-confidence, to me, does not exist. No one person is ever totally as he seems. There are "seems" to be happy people. Phony over-happiness is a symptom of an underlying problem. "Hierarchy"? Do not acknowledge. I have never been a follow-the-sheep, fit into societal "norms" kind of woman. If I can't rely on my own perceived self-confidence, what do I rely on? Who has the right to tell me that I live within a so-called miss match of personal confidence? Have been where you are referring. With my gratitude, and loving guidance from Him and so many other compassionate, understanding and truly gifted professionals, I now have learned, accepted and continue to apply positive acquired skills taught to me and those already life-taught. I am living within the Winter of my life. This personal change, with all of it's continuous wild and wonderful ah-ha's, is better for me to have experienced now, than never at all. There is always a way.
I simply didn’t responded to anything. If something happened whether it was bad or good, it was just grey. My brain just didn’t calibrate. I feel fantastic today, but it took me over a decade, and I had more than 2 years of my life where I couldn’t feel anything. There was one color and that was gray.
What is it called when you do not compare yourself to others but you’re still trying to find your way? You have been through so much that you totally understand human reality but yet you still fell lost and trying to figure out your purpose in life. Don’t have to ask that question because I already know the answer sorry to bother.
I'm 38, never had a boyfriend, have a job, but no friends. I have let comparison be the thief of joy far too many times. I'm lucky to have the things I do have, even if my life doesn't appear to be as full as someone else's
Prof throw into this AUT/ADHD which cloak each other and where due to ADHD you can superficially make small talk (even though the world often makes no sense, and your often overwhelmed and need time alone) at work your way more able than your colleagues but you think your failing cause you aint perfect and they think they are amazing. No wonder high incidence of suicide and self medication … food, drug, shopping etc., and most therapists dont even understand this. Those normal milestones just not the same for those on the spectrum in a bonkers world… You need to do a episode on this?
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Actually refreshingly encouraging. As someone who has dealt with unfounded depression for many years of my life, I often felt like I was a complete failure, worthless, useless, etc. In reality (and in non-depressive times I could see that) I was a loving wife with a loving husband, successful and hard working, raising and homeschooling my children, and a valuable part of my friend groups and local church family, etc. My emotions were not matching my reality.
I’ve been depressed for many years, I don’t take medication. Need to work out root cause of it. Medication is just a Band-Aid
That can’t be totally true. My adult Son has everything down on paper (house girlfriend car good job friends family)but still is depressed.
He worries us all sick the way he goes on. We love him dearly but no matter what we do for him or what professional help we get him he still doesn’t like life. We are heartbroken. 💔
yeah… I'm worst than I was yesterday…
Provided your opinion hangs on the external actions not the internal. The internal says I am successful in my own right no matter what others say about the external actions they consider successful. Success is I. The eyes of the beholder. Clever about the match and mismatch comment though.
I'm exactly as he described at the beginning of this. But I've lost all interest and care in the world about it. What's it to anyone if I don't care or want to bother with anyone other than myself? I already stopped caring about what anyone thinks of me.
It simply has no bearing on the real truth which is the only thing I'm interested in.
Have we ever seen Serotonin
Hypercompetent people in what sense?
I can't see this clip being something positive my brain is not grasping the concept. I hear him say loser and it sounds all negative to me
"True depression is a mismatch between your actual competence and your self-perceived competence." Mind blown. Thank you doctor Peterson for the sentence I've needed to hear my entire life.
Agree 2🆘🌏🆘😊Diii§§agree 😋🤣
I have no mate, i have hardly any friends, i don't have a job. Yet i am full of joy and feel very happy 😅 i do write code and stuff in my time that i enjoy doing
I had expected more out of all of my exhaustion.
✅
Haha u try so hard
Yeh that’s my life. And I’m stuck for another 2 years… Then I’ll be rebuilding a career in my late 30’s
Left a lot of things too late, don’t think I’ll ever fully recover again but I’m just a cog in the machine so at the end of the day it won’t matter much
I truly believe that those of us who are
chronically depressed for whatever reason with no insurance and with a high I.Q., go under the rug and we just stop.
While I understand capitalism, what I will never accept from the medical community, is while you want to "help" people, you turn them down with no financial interest.
This is BUNK.
Wow. Thanks for that clarification!
Everything must end in time..
Quit talkin shit Jordan. I know.
He said "Imagine" as if I dont know exactly what that's like…
He really gave me the reality smack
Don't agree, Jordan. Do not ever compare myself with anyone. Hyper-confidence, to me, does not exist. No one person is ever totally as he seems. There are "seems" to be happy people. Phony over-happiness is a symptom of an underlying problem. "Hierarchy"? Do not acknowledge. I have never been a follow-the-sheep, fit into societal "norms" kind of woman. If I can't rely on my own perceived self-confidence, what do I rely on? Who has the right to tell me that I live within a so-called miss match of personal confidence? Have been where you are referring. With my gratitude, and loving guidance from Him and so many other compassionate, understanding and truly gifted professionals, I now have learned, accepted and continue to apply positive acquired skills taught to me and those already life-taught. I am living within the Winter of my life. This personal change, with all of it's continuous wild and wonderful ah-ha's, is better for me to have experienced now, than never at all. There is always a way.
Dumbest ever.
Fuck..
I simply didn’t responded to anything. If something happened whether it was bad or good, it was just grey. My brain just didn’t calibrate. I feel fantastic today, but it took me over a decade, and I had more than 2 years of my life where I couldn’t feel anything. There was one color and that was gray.
What is it called when you do not compare yourself to others but you’re still trying to find your way? You have been through so much that you totally understand human reality but yet you still fell lost and trying to figure out your purpose in life. Don’t have to ask that question because I already know the answer sorry to bother.
I'm 38, never had a boyfriend, have a job, but no friends. I have let comparison be the thief of joy far too many times. I'm lucky to have the things I do have, even if my life doesn't appear to be as full as someone else's
Thank you …
Very true
Prof throw into this AUT/ADHD which cloak each other and where due to ADHD you can superficially make small talk (even though the world often makes no sense, and your often overwhelmed and need time alone) at work your way more able than your colleagues but you think your failing cause you aint perfect and they think they are amazing. No wonder high incidence of suicide and self medication … food, drug, shopping etc., and most therapists dont even understand this.
Those normal milestones just not the same for those on the spectrum in a bonkers world…
You need to do a episode on this?