Why you feel powerless as a person

We’re all weak. 99% of us. Reality told me that.

what if this didn't happen to me but i still feel weak

It's a tough mindset to break. You're completely right though.

Can somebody help? I am a nihilist.

I want to wake up from this nightmare we are living in. My phone addiction is killing me and the worlds on fire(always has been) but my B cluster disorder are so hard to treat I'm currently therapistless and no hope. I'm about to have to tell my psychiatrist i havent been taking my meds right and I'm scared there's no future to be had. I'll try to CBT my way out of it but it's disingenuous to blame someone else for your feelings of powerlessness. We are all powerless unless we rise up together but we are too worried about differences to care about each other. I'm going to pretend everything is fine and go clock in and be a fake person like I always am.

I needed to hear this.
I'm struggling with an insecurity my partner planted at me of "no effort from my side will fix what's wrong or make her feel better" and that's affected my perception of how much others value me.

Still going through it, but this flip on the script really helps me

This sounds similar to learned helpness theory

but what about the one who is telling you that you're weak is actually your own self? 🙁

This hits hard as someone who grew up with the combo of autism/ADHD and strict parents who withheld love because I underperformed in school or embarrassed them socially. I made it to my 30s honestly believing I was just fundamentally weak, lazy, broken, and immoral. I didn’t not realise I was ND. I have autism in my family, and it had been suggested before. I think I knew it on a deep level to be true, like someone who’s so deep in the gay closet they’ve even convinced themselves they’re straight. But I just couldn’t accept it. That kind of self-delusion comes from extreme emotional abuse in childhood and parents teaching kids to associate fundamental parts of their selves with shame, failure, and moral weakness.
The only reason I still believe in love is bc I know how much a human being suffers without it.

Hmmm… I have a friend that has a mom who's quite neurotic, drank to deal with anxiety, claimed to be a tough and strong woman, but ran away any moment they could but returned home, even if running off just next door but to drink, vent, and cry. However, her mom doesn't drink luke before or anywhere near close and changed drastically for the better. BUT…

My friend is literally between 3-10x worse because she has BPD would manifested from her CPTSD from extreme emotional trauma that's still occuring to this day (medical gaslighting). So, this is where I'll conclude this in form of the most vital inquiry I have:

Since she and I both know where this comes from, HOW can she begin to Reverse her feeling weak, powerless, and hopeless, esp when back to back issues keep piling up on her, and as soon as she gets a break, something drastic occurs rhat literally lasts for months to years long?

I'm extremely beyond help to help her. She has NO friends (long story short, she's been bullied and discriminated from society since age 5 to this very day, nearly 4 decades long). She's also one of my PATIENTS. 😢

Any members here know what lecture or qna was this from?

Would be nice if you linked the original video in the description.

What if my sense of weakness comes rather from a complete lack of expectations from these 1 or 2 people?

I feel so ill-prepared to live life, I don't know how to do it. It's embarrassing to admit it as an adult nearing their 30s.

I often feel like a bird in a small yet weak cage. The cage might even be open and I can see the open world beyond it, but I dare not go into it, because I don't know how to fly.

Guys what's the full video in the members section?

'A friend of mine'…. Was regularly chastised physically and verbally for having too much self-pity or crying out of self-pity. Which made my friend have more self-pity- I'm sure the next step in the story is clear.

What if its true and not bs belief
What if its everyone that makes you that way? 😂😂

I was expected to be a fully functioning adult by the time I was 4. My mother let us all know what a burden and what lousy kids we were. We were considered "needy" for having normal childhood expectations from love to school supplies.