I can really relate to the birthday part in this video. Ok so i had my birthday planned for months and i even offered to pay for the dinner. Which was dumb because it was my birthday… So eventually we went the hour away for the restaurant, its a wonderful hang out of mine i hadn't been to in 4 years 😢 we got there, so there is a friend of mine and her mom and her moms friend (her moms friend drove us) we were supposed to get there by 5 but because the driver kept dragging his feet we got there by 6pm… We sat down the restaurant was full so it took a while to get a waitress, i ordered the amazing ribs they have because that was planed for a month before my birthday. Well the friend agreed it was my birthday, her mom orderd a burger because she had a upset stomach… And the moms friend was rude, it wasn't just the fact that he screwed up the order, or the fact that he acted like he didn't know what he wanted… (Even though i was paying for the ribs for everyone. It wasnt just the fact he made us sit there for a extra hour waiting for him to decide he wanted the ribs… And to top it off he taunted me like a rude teenager, Even though he is in his 50s… During the meal my friends mom got a call, from this total karen who somehow even though the Karen stole the moms bank cards, food share and car, then that Karen turned around and killed her own dogs that the friends mom loved those dogs… Well this Karen wanted help with storage this time and she wanted money. So keep that in mind i indie other hand have taken care of my friend and her mom for 2 years now and gave, gave, gave them almost everything just to help them so that they can help me…. Think of it as life is very expensive so i and my friend take care of each other. I take care of the two cats the mom and the friend they are supposed to help me out the friend helps sometimes, but the mom takes me for granted all the time…. So this karen called right, the friends mom answered her phone and agreed to meet with her to help her after dinner… Even though we were at the restaurant for the first time in 4 years, we already have planed that we were going to see the restaurants zoo, car museum, and harley shop…. I couldn't believe it unless i saw it…. Wow here is this person i had been helping for 2 years… It was my birthday, we had plans for 2 months before, i had been suicidal since i was a kid… It was a surprise that i made it to 29 years old…. That's a huge accomplishment… and she just threw a wrench in the works like that….i put my foot down and told her no we haven't seen the rest of the things we had planed… She as stubborn as she is demanded we leave as soon as dinner was done by the time dinner was done she forced us all to get back in the car and go back to my friends house…. The friends moms friend almost drove a motorcycle off the road, on the trip back to her house my phone had died so im just thinking to myself well that is not a proper birthday… This is not surprising that she's doing this shit again but this is not right,after everything I do/did for them…. After everything I ever got for them…. (My friend was trying to make me feel better, but even she knows that her mom is inconsiderate ,and stubborn as a mule… So she just did what her mom wanted to after she talked to her) i decided no its not fair that is not a birthday,her mom never even gave me a present. Only my friend did… I decided ok no moss (no more) im not getting her mom no more presents…. She gonna treat me continuously like this and never change she is inconsiderate, selfish and greedy, hypocritical, and she doesnt respect me. Its like taking care of a child who is 55 years old… No more… I deserve way better… By the time I got to her house i went straight to the room i was staying in and went straight to bed, i was so upset and to make it worse her mom did not apologize instead she acted unsurprisingly like a child, she said it was her Karen friends fault when it was fully her own fault not her karen friends… So my husband threw another birthday party for me at the restaurant and it was perfect everything was amazing and the best part everyone had a fantastic time❤❤❤❤
I'm in that boat, and I can see how it affects my work too. Not seriously, not yet. But I only have 3 friends outside of work that I don't get to see too often. Never have been intimate with anyone before. Single all my life. I wouldn't say I have all of these strong symptoms, but some for sure. All that folks sharing the same stories are so young they have nothing they should be complaining about. I'm 44!
Notice that there are zero to none women in the comments under this video. Such thing as lack of intimacy is almost unknown to them. They always praised by the society, always in a circle of friends, they are always being supported and getting all the empathy. Men? Men are made to just suffer and die miserably. It's always been like that. Men are expendable, who cares that men are not only deep thinkers, they are deep feelers: most beautiful art made by men mostly, even after so called "equality". But still – they're just a biological wastes, it's how we're seen by nature, society… and women, who chose loneliness while our loneliness is enforced on us.
This is disruptive to my evolution into a troll. Currently looking for the bridge the goats walk over to live there and moan at them. Better to be alone less trouble less annoyance, less of people trying to get you to compete with the bs.
People always want to be around but because it drains me. I prefer my own company. The painful bit is letting someone in and being drained even more.
what a dumb b!tch commentator. asks why we 'ignore' intimacy LOL. women withold ANY form of even remote intimacy from lesser males. these males are feked
My girlfriend and I started dating in April. I love her so much and want things to really work out. But due to my exes, there are days I feel like I'm struggling to connect until I talk to her and my worries disappear. She and I are in a long distance relationship. How can I put my insecurities at ease?
Can you please make a video about how to express your feelings subtly? I always show my love to my family and friends through helping them with things they need or doing things that makes their lives easier without them noticing but they usually go unnoticed and I don't really know any other way to express my feelings to them. I feel like this is the main reason why they don't notice when I'm in a hard time because I simply can't express my feelings or ask for help the way others do. Please help!
For me intimacy is different. Even though im young, when someone falls in love, I make them believe that love is real. Through compassion, loyalty respect. Whether i receive it or not. As long as it changes something good in them. Its a weird paradox but i have never expected any reciprocation
Thank you for putting this particular topic out there. The lack of intimacy, in addition to the lack of emotional support is the story of my life.
I never thought the absence of romantic love is one of the reasons why I haven’t lived up to my full potential, but after watching this video, I'm inclined to agree.
maybe it's weird but what works for me is hugging pillows and pretending it's a real person, that won't solve the problem but helps with falling asleep at night
From getting messed up in the military to dealing with bad relationships and having a father who literally put his hands on me and belittle me and my brother when we were kids calling us clowns when we try love him so much I just keep drinking and just don’t care no more im glad im reenlist into a different branch into the army im happy i get to do infantry be the first to go into combat shit that all I was brainwashed for anyway 😂
I’ve been out of a relationship for so long it really just feels like I don’t know how to show affection right or even hold a relationship. Doesn’t help that everyone I’ve also been with has cheated so. 😅
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If my brain is a garden it probably looks like a goddamn wasteland if this video says anything
I can really relate to the birthday part in this video. Ok so i had my birthday planned for months and i even offered to pay for the dinner. Which was dumb because it was my birthday… So eventually we went the hour away for the restaurant, its a wonderful hang out of mine i hadn't been to in 4 years 😢 we got there, so there is a friend of mine and her mom and her moms friend (her moms friend drove us) we were supposed to get there by 5 but because the driver kept dragging his feet we got there by 6pm… We sat down the restaurant was full so it took a while to get a waitress, i ordered the amazing ribs they have because that was planed for a month before my birthday. Well the friend agreed it was my birthday, her mom orderd a burger because she had a upset stomach… And the moms friend was rude, it wasn't just the fact that he screwed up the order, or the fact that he acted like he didn't know what he wanted… (Even though i was paying for the ribs for everyone. It wasnt just the fact he made us sit there for a extra hour waiting for him to decide he wanted the ribs… And to top it off he taunted me like a rude teenager, Even though he is in his 50s… During the meal my friends mom got a call, from this total karen who somehow even though the Karen stole the moms bank cards, food share and car, then that Karen turned around and killed her own dogs that the friends mom loved those dogs… Well this Karen wanted help with storage this time and she wanted money. So keep that in mind i indie other hand have taken care of my friend and her mom for 2 years now and gave, gave, gave them almost everything just to help them so that they can help me…. Think of it as life is very expensive so i and my friend take care of each other. I take care of the two cats the mom and the friend they are supposed to help me out the friend helps sometimes, but the mom takes me for granted all the time…. So this karen called right, the friends mom answered her phone and agreed to meet with her to help her after dinner… Even though we were at the restaurant for the first time in 4 years, we already have planed that we were going to see the restaurants zoo, car museum, and harley shop…. I couldn't believe it unless i saw it…. Wow here is this person i had been helping for 2 years… It was my birthday, we had plans for 2 months before, i had been suicidal since i was a kid… It was a surprise that i made it to 29 years old…. That's a huge accomplishment… and she just threw a wrench in the works like that….i put my foot down and told her no we haven't seen the rest of the things we had planed… She as stubborn as she is demanded we leave as soon as dinner was done by the time dinner was done she forced us all to get back in the car and go back to my friends house…. The friends moms friend almost drove a motorcycle off the road, on the trip back to her house my phone had died so im just thinking to myself well that is not a proper birthday… This is not surprising that she's doing this shit again but this is not right,after everything I do/did for them…. After everything I ever got for them…. (My friend was trying to make me feel better, but even she knows that her mom is inconsiderate ,and stubborn as a mule… So she just did what her mom wanted to after she talked to her) i decided no its not fair that is not a birthday,her mom never even gave me a present. Only my friend did… I decided ok no moss (no more) im not getting her mom no more presents…. She gonna treat me continuously like this and never change she is inconsiderate, selfish and greedy, hypocritical, and she doesnt respect me. Its like taking care of a child who is 55 years old… No more… I deserve way better… By the time I got to her house i went straight to the room i was staying in and went straight to bed, i was so upset and to make it worse her mom did not apologize instead she acted unsurprisingly like a child, she said it was her Karen friends fault when it was fully her own fault not her karen friends… So my husband threw another birthday party for me at the restaurant and it was perfect everything was amazing and the best part everyone had a fantastic time❤❤❤❤
I'm in that boat, and I can see how it affects my work too. Not seriously, not yet. But I only have 3 friends outside of work that I don't get to see too often. Never have been intimate with anyone before. Single all my life. I wouldn't say I have all of these strong symptoms, but some for sure. All that folks sharing the same stories are so young they have nothing they should be complaining about. I'm 44!
Never dated anyone throughout the 20 years of my life. However, I’ve got a family that loves me dearly, so it’s not all bad.
Been feeling off for a while now, this explains it!
Notice that there are zero to none women in the comments under this video. Such thing as lack of intimacy is almost unknown to them. They always praised by the society, always in a circle of friends, they are always being supported and getting all the empathy. Men? Men are made to just suffer and die miserably. It's always been like that. Men are expendable, who cares that men are not only deep thinkers, they are deep feelers: most beautiful art made by men mostly, even after so called "equality". But still – they're just a biological wastes, it's how we're seen by nature, society… and women, who chose loneliness while our loneliness is enforced on us.
I think i may be cooked….
This is disruptive to my evolution into a troll. Currently looking for the bridge the goats walk over to live there and moan at them.
Better to be alone less trouble less annoyance, less of people trying to get you to compete with the bs.
People always want to be around but because it drains me. I prefer my own company. The painful bit is letting someone in and being drained even more.
Well now I know what's wrong with me
only some people get to have it, not all lol
what a dumb b!tch commentator. asks why we 'ignore' intimacy LOL. women withold ANY form of even remote intimacy from lesser males. these males are feked
I thought it said lack of intelligence I was about to sent it to my friend
My girlfriend and I started dating in April. I love her so much and want things to really work out. But due to my exes, there are days I feel like I'm struggling to connect until I talk to her and my worries disappear. She and I are in a long distance relationship. How can I put my insecurities at ease?
Can you please make a video about how to express your feelings subtly? I always show my love to my family and friends through helping them with things they need or doing things that makes their lives easier without them noticing but they usually go unnoticed and I don't really know any other way to express my feelings to them. I feel like this is the main reason why they don't notice when I'm in a hard time because I simply can't express my feelings or ask for help the way others do. Please help!
This video explains a lot doesn’t it? 😅
No matter where this "life/world" takes me, my husband and I are monogamy we will always be there for each other always.❤❤❤
Indian males are again craving more of it after watching 😂
For me intimacy is different. Even though im young, when someone falls in love, I make them believe that love is real. Through compassion, loyalty respect. Whether i receive it or not. As long as it changes something good in them. Its a weird paradox but i have never expected any reciprocation
Bro, ngl, i think my brain got so wired up to the point where hugs from people close to my life doesn't hit as much anymore
Thank you for putting this particular topic out there. The lack of intimacy, in addition to the lack of emotional support is the story of my life.
I never thought the absence of romantic love is one of the reasons why I haven’t lived up to my full potential, but after watching this video, I'm inclined to agree.
_<3
Thanks!
0:51 That’s not for me happening anymore, chat am I cooked?
"Blackjack… and hookers."
That… was something
2:58 I used the stress to stress the stress
maybe it's weird but what works for me is hugging pillows and pretending it's a real person, that won't solve the problem but helps with falling asleep at night
From getting messed up in the military to dealing with bad relationships and having a father who literally put his hands on me and belittle me and my brother when we were kids calling us clowns when we try love him so much I just keep drinking and just don’t care no more im glad im reenlist into a different branch into the army im happy i get to do infantry be the first to go into combat shit that all I was brainwashed for anyway 😂
in 20 years of life i have never felt intimacy with anyone, im still standing playing in the background
I’ve been out of a relationship for so long it really just feels like I don’t know how to show affection right or even hold a relationship. Doesn’t help that everyone I’ve also been with has cheated so. 😅
How having no biches kills you
Huh, this explains a lot. Like way too much