How do we stop ruminating or obsessive thoughts? #mentalhealth #obsessivethoughts #boundaries
for those of you who don’t know we used to think in research that thought stopping could be would be effective for us to in our head you know close our eyes and say stop stop stop stop stop that that would stop that thought cycle turns out no but acknowledging it calling it a thought and saying you know what I don’t need to engage with it we find that to be the most effective I know who knew um researchers knew
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Bible says "take every thought captive"
Would love some citations of the research you are referring to. Thank you
Simon Says … red light green light kick the can
I have such a hard time stopping myself from doing this.
Recently i decided when i catch myself having intrusive thoughts i will start wishing i was eating lobster dinner instead. If you believe in manifestation those bad thoughts are wishes that could cost you.
Im going on an actual trip to the beach in a few days so i think its working ✨
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Sages and eastern medicine knows.
I switch to the child part of my personality, and do some silly stuff, like dancing, ruining a song or saying ridiculous things with a baby voice. It makes me laugh! Then I switch back to adult, and think about something else. Works a treat!
I have found distance and space from the “noise” has helped me most.
Doesn’t work at all. Saying i don't want to engage with it means ignoring bad thought, not caring about it
And THAT'S EXACTLY what's impossible 😅 that's what we need help for, to stop caring about it, so they say : method to not care is to stop caring
Come on that's what we can't do
Ruminating leads to depression not always easy to stop even with distraction when in the throws of something ❤
Intrusive thoughts
I had found that if I would try to forcethose thoughts to stop, it would just make them stronger. I feel like the best thing that I can do is not react, but let them "do their thing," so that my rationale thinking can finally turn on.
*"STOP STOP STOP"* always lead to me into a panic cause it wouldn't actually stop it, which gave that thought even more power over me.
Now I either do someone along the lines of:
1. Acknowledgement. "Yup that's a thought alright."
And sometimes that's enough for it to "feel seen" and go away.
Especially for an intrusive thought, reminding yourself that it isn't "your" thought can be so helpful.
Or an "okay, this is troubling me. What can I do about this feeling/thought?" Or "what could be causing me to think/feel such a way?"
[Spoiler: You might just be hungry, tired, or maybe you're over-stimulated or you have a headache you haven't quite registered yet]
2. I'll "shake it out of my head"
(quite literally shake/dip my head once or to the side so it can "fall out" of my ears, kinda like how you'd get water out of your ears as a kid ☺️ lol it sounds so silly but it works so well. I guess cause it's related to the mindfulness technique of seeing the thought and just "letting it leave" like your thoughts are constandly flowing down a river and you just need only to wave and acknowledge them as they float by instead of trying to scoop them up and toss them out of the river (which requires focusing and panicking over them and therfore causing them to stick around longer than they would have)
With the headshake, I feel like I'm just giving them a little push out the door so-to-speak lol. Let 'em fall right out as easy as they popped in uninvited.
3. And sometimes, (especially when all else fails) you just gotta *laugh* at it and make fun of it. It takes the power away from it and it leaves you alone.
Kinda like how you're taught as a kid to deal with a bully. "Don't let them see your reaction and they won't do it anymore" and/or trivialize what they say/do so they feel embarrassed and leave.
Even something as simple as an "okay Edge lord" as if they're some angsty teenager in your head telling you to do dumb sh*t or telling your horrible "fun facts" or telling you you're dumb, etc.
It's funny how much less power they'll have if you just laugh at them, and also *maybe give them a little grace* cause they're an angst teen and they're 'going through it' and they really just need love, acceptance, and help. They just don't know how to ask, ya know?
Those are the 3 ways I personally have learned to deal with my intrusive/obsessive thoughts now. It's my own tool kit I've developed even before I was able to get the therapy and help I've needed.
And I hope this helps at least one person out there! Cause you're worth it!! And i know it can feel like you're out of control, and there's no e-brake…but you've got this. Someone, somewhere out there know's what you're going through (it me, hi my name's Leigh 👋😅💕) and I believe in you. Even if you don't believe in you right now, i do. Take things One Step, One Thought, One Victory at a time.
Don't give up! ❤❤
Its also Important to have a script that works for you to contradict the rumination.
I’ve found this to be the most effective way to stop thoughts in their tracks. Although it may take time to find a narrative that works for you, even if it’s just along the lines of “I can only control what is in my control and thinking this way is only causing more harm to my mental state”
It has to be something that works for you personally, but once you find the right script I swear you get so much relief from being able to tell yourself a new story about what your brain thinks it is protecting you from.
Rumination is usually your brain’s way of trying to keep you safe, so finding a way to comfort yourself and contradict your thoughts is the only way to ride out those waves
Psychopaths in research also thought electrocuting someone's brain and lobotomy of the frontal lobe would be an effective treatment, when really they knew they used it or torture and damage people and disable them beat them down so much they would comply the problems people had would still be the same and more on top of it….turns out wild foods with high antioxidants are now the real reason that's an effective treatment for a physical mental health issue.
Acknowledging the thought, yes, good point. That really helps. What helps me further is to say to myself "Not now." The matter need not be considered, and I avoid the argument with myself over whether the matter needs consideration or not. I'm simply not dealing with it now. 😂 Remarkably, very few of these matters seem to require in hindsight that I deal with them.
Uhm, Id never have thought that telling myself – to stop the thought process would work. Surprised to hear that researchers thought that way, could you elaborate, who exactly was claiming that?
Its very tedious to do.
Jesus is God read the Bible repent
Not researcher? That is being used in India for thousands of years.
I’ve had this condition for 10 years and I have to say, I believe it’s Tourette’s syndrome, just for the simple fact that you get head pressure all day from this condition and it never goes away no matter how much exposure response you do. And I am not one to give up. I don’t let this condition overtake me. I fight it every day and there’s no way to beat this condition so I feel it some sort of brain damage.
https://youtu.be/YSCvPt8v9Nk?si=ccSspZb0Nu_AUC-o
What she said is probably the most underrated trick to stop rumination. Just say in your mind “ So what? I dont give a damn” and trust me this works everytime. The moment you are ready to stop caring you will start to heal immediately. You will need to enforce this habit by repeating this trick for a few weeks. Then boom you are a totally different person, no more rumination because you have developed a habit of not givjng a damn even if the world is against you. Its the safest place to be. Full of happiness and confidence.
Im not sold on this
How do you not engage though???
It's kinda funny, instead of yelling "Shut up!" politely say "No, thank you"
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I've tried both methods and they both don't work at all. If I distract myself or try to contain it, it just end up getting pent up and I eventually explode. If I acknowledged the thought, it deepens my rumination and compounds my stress, fears, anxieties and anger. I'm damned if I do and damned if i don't
What do you do when you acknowledge it and label it and it still does not stop? Medication resistant CPTSD, OCD, ADHD, mild autism, BPD II, and BPD. I live in hell in my own head. And it never stops. Imagine walking through piles of burninh bodies and they are screaming and trying to grab you to take them with you. That's the best comparison i have for my thoughts
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I need to stop being obsessive, lol 🤣🤣🤣.
It's the beliefs, not the thoughts that drive ocd.
I try to view it in a way that my ocd is highlighting something to me that i just need to reasure myself about and dig deeper for the trauma that caused the underlying issue of that self doubt in the first place and its usually things connected to what makes u feel un safe…
The ending wow
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What about how to stop OCD to attack and manipulate my long memory?
I finished Alice in borderland season 3 at 27 of september. After i finished the third season, i decided to rewatch season 1 and 2, which i already watched in 2022, but as soon as i completed to rewatched the first two season recently, my brain told me that i never watched season 1&2 back in 2022, the only time that i watched those two season was recently after i watched season 3, which do not make sense at all. I have been stuck in this loophole from the 2 of october. I even asked Netflix to sent me the list, and it appears that i watched it at 28 of december, 2022, but again my ocd played me that i edited the file and write Alice season 1 and 2 in the co pilot 365 file, which again is a nonse sense, remember that i scrolled down carefully without changing nothing, but these intrusive thoughts really mask that. I even told my brother that the game of "Distance" is a total deception even before i rewatch it again, i also have evidence that i searched the release date on google at 22 of september( three day before the seasom 3 was released). I decided to rewatch it, because i forgot i few details, that is why, if i knew that will happend to me, i would take a pictures of the episodes of season 1&2 with the bar filled that indicates that i already watch it.
However, i deleted the file of netflix content list , and i turned on my screen recorder on to download it back while i record the whole scroll down thing to show that i already watch in back in 2022, which gave me a little back of relieve, but these intrusive thoughts stay attack me from today.
I'm suffering from this for three years without treatment, because is quite mild, but now it evolved to this. OCD is also not cheap to treat where i lived. Ohh, i also have a chat with Grok, that i was comparing the first two seasons to the third 3 season even before i rewatched both season recently, but i deleted it and now im trying to recover it.
Please help, thank you.
This is so annoying, i need a relieve.
It just goes to the body
Theres no stopping the cretins from hopping
Can't seem to stop the thoughts I have no control over.❤