The Truth About BetterHelp, Life Coaches, & Positive Affirmations | Dr. Ali Mattu

Thanks for having me on Dr. Mike and for continuing to make mental health part of the conversation 🙌🏽

Mbti is junk but big5 isnt? He does not know what hes talking about lol😂

i have a idea when new therapy app has been released just like betterhelp does but with good quality and very supportive towards vulnerable people and using trained professional who will never ghost you.

I think corny is my type!

I am happy to see people talking about all this, but I do not agree with mental health care and the most important thing is the relationship. I have had different people do that who did not pick up on my (severe!!!) add! People tend to treat just depression, anxiety, eating disorders or addiction and so on, and not understand the link to different neurodiversity ruined my life severely! And YouTube saved me as it was the only thing where I found the information. I agree that it is important to look for experts and not people who have it. I’ve seen (in multiple countries) psychiatrists , phychologists, social workers and so on an no one “saw” my adhd until I did at age 45! I was happy to have found the reason behind my struggles, got it confirmed, twice, and then found no one could help me as no one is properly trained. I found I (always) knew way more than the person supposed to be trained on the subject. I found family doctors dismissing it, wanting me on anti depressants. And so on. It’s absolutely insane the problems patients encounter who just want the right support and help building a life. Absolute insanity. No one sees or understands connections, no one knows enough about treatment. Governments concentrate more on rules and anti abuse an financial aspects concerning stimulants (crazy as studies show it isn’t that helpful for people without adhd but that is not cummunicated) in stead of truly trying to help the person that needs them. I can go on and on about my experiences with other this, but I think it is all wrong in most places. Psychiatrists saying a patient came for addiction then said might have adhd and saying we concentrate on the addiction if not I’d do you a disservice is insane when everyone knows both are often linked so if adhd good luck with treating the addiction. Or people throwing things on character flaws or just being hormonal. Hormones are connected as well. Again. I’ll stop here, but I wish clinicians would get actual training concerning neurodiversity, comorbidity and so on. More than a couple of hours or days. I have no access to to accurate and helpful care and I think it is a problem for many (not everyone), many. And yes!!!! Exactly, look at functioning !!! Please in schools and pediatricians!!! I wildly agree! In my experience adhd and asd are not being picked up though. I know you said might, but that is a light might depending on where you live. People also say stuff like well adhd is not seen as that problematic, we don’t see that big of problems with it, in schools for example, wild, look at those untreated and wildly misunderstood kids later on. Some might do ok but the risk of huge struggles and comorbidity is all over societies, just not seen in relation to adhd enough. Depression, anxiety, RSD (!!), addiction (self medicating), social struggles, low self esteem, masking, problems in school or at work and so on. And if not teachers, someone from outside who comes in a day per class and evaluates with the teacher. It’s not about labels it’s about understanding and helping.

Hesitant parents should be concerned about what happens if you do not asses these things properly, what are they giving their child to work with. Especially without understanding family dynamics are often difficult, school, socially, and so on as mentioned. Also the non stop comments the child’s gets will hurt them. Try harder, sit still, you’re always too loud, too much, too this, too that, stop this, don’t do that and so on. Non stop, is not helping at all. So yes, you can choose that labels and identity are concerns or just understand and what you are dealing with and help your child.

I agree that there should be mental health milestones through the lifespan to help identify, prevent, and address issues early.

Really appreciated this conversation between two people I respect!

@drali Thank you so much Dr Mattu 😊🌼

So glad I came across this, one of my favourites so far.

Re: Meyers Briggs test: my mood fluctuates so hard that I will neeeever get the same answer on the same three days lmao